OK, im 14, never had a boyfriend, ive been waiting for something that will last longer than 1 week, and basically for a guy who actually cares for me, so first question am i wasting my time waiting for nothing? Also I am one of those people who get good grades, i guess a nerd though i dont look the part (im sure most people dont)... and when a guy does ask me out i always turn them down because im not interested in them but then there are other people in my school who say that im gay or something because of that, second do u think its wierd?
2006-07-28 19:06:10 · 21 answers · asked by Nicole 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well, if you never give any guys a chance you might miss out on the guy who really does care for you, also, if you dont date other guys when you do find a guy you think really cares about you you might not have enough experience to see through his act. I think dating is important. You dont always find mr right on your first try. You have to date around so one day youll be able to know genuinenly you have the right guy. Also just becuase you arent intrested in dating just yet doesnt make you a lebian or anything liek that. You have to ignore all those mean people out there. If your not ready to date yet, then thats fine. I am just glad to hear your not like alot of people your age these days throwing your self at any and every guy. Thats how teen pregnancies and STD's happen you know? Also, its great to hear you make good grades, dont ever let a guy interfer with that no matter how great you think he is. Any guy who really cares about you will understand how important your grades are. Think about it like this, how good you do in school sets you up for the rest of your life. Which college you go to, how well you do, what kind of job youll get in the future, What kind of money youll be making, and everything else thats important. Honey, im sorry to say it, most of the time you think this guy is the best and will be there forever, they wont be. You have to put yourself and your well being of them. One day you will find that guy who will be there forever, but i doubt itll be anytime soon. Remember than, grades and education is for life.. that boy wont always be there. Stay strong and do what you think is right.
2006-07-28 19:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by sera 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think it's weird, but you are missing out on some things. The "relationships" you have when you're young (like the ones that last for a week), shape what you want in a guy. I always thought I knew what i wanted in a guy, but after dating a few guys, I learnt about what I really wanted. There's nothing wrong with wanting to wait for a guy that really cares about you, but I'm sure that you'll find that anyway. You're young, have fun doing what you wanna do. If you wanna wait for that special guy, then wait. It doesn't matter what people think or say about you, all that matters is that you know who you are. Good luck!
2006-07-28 19:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by jadevandersee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is just fine that you are 14 years old, and don't have a boyfriend. You are obviously interested in them, so have lots of friends, guys and girls and just have fun!! You'll have plenty of time and I do mean PLENTY of time to have a b/f, when you are older. Now is YOUR TIME, to find out who you are, what you like, what area your morals, beliefs, etc. Get to know who you are, and what a special person you are. I wouldn't worry at all about what others have to say, who cares! Enjoy your life, this day, this moment, it is a Gift!We have a 14 year old daughter, has had lots of guys she thinks are cute, but has never had a b/f nor does she want one. She knows the work it takes, the responsibility, etc and why? For what?At this age? Nobody needs that so kick back, relax, and have fun!
2006-07-28 20:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, who says you have to have a boyfriend? Plenty of people don't have their first relationship until their 20's. You aren't in a race.
If there's a guy that you like, waiting for him won't get you anywhere. You're wasting your time if you sit and wait for Mr. Right to come to you. He could be as shy and as unsure as you are. Make the first move and you could give him a thrill. :) If you don't get anywhere, it's not the end of the world. Just don't start asking guys out left and right or you'll get a slutty reputation fast.
At your age, guys "care" about half of the girls they see. If a guy "cares" about you, it usually translates into him caring enough to invest the necessary time and effort to get into your pants.
It'll take a lot longer than 1 week to find out if a guy REALLY cares about you...and I mean a guy who's had a crush on you for years, or a guy who's able to realize that he feels genuine affection for you. If you think you've found him, it'll take time and effort on your part as well.
People who spread rumors like "she's gay" are trying to salvage their egos by trying to make you look bad after they got shot down. That's standard operating procedure...it always will be. Never accept a guy's advances because you want to fit in, or because you want to avoid ridicule. Worry about yourself first and about what others think last.
2006-07-28 20:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by ardra71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok hun. ur being matture about dating. screw the judgemental ppl that think ur gay or w/e. ur being urself and be proud of it. when the right guy comes along u'll kno it but until then dont settle for less then what or who u deserve. b/c in the long run ur starting to make choices that benefit u not hurt u. ur not wasting ur time for nothing. and just b/c u get good grades doesnt mean ur a nerd. it means that ur gonna do something with ur life and u actually care so kudos to u. keep being urself and dont let any1 make u feel like crap b/c they're too afraid to be themselves. screw those ppl cuz those are the ppl that will be gas station attendants for there career when ur gonna go and do something great with ur life.
2006-07-28 19:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by blond_bomb_shell0404 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-28 16:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not weird. If you are not interested in certain people then you are not interested. And saying you are gay seems to be the standard guy response when he's turned down. sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Hang in there, you are doing great
2006-07-28 19:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok your only 14 you have plenty of time for boyfriends and that does not mean you are gay i think the best thing is for you to stay focuesd on your school work and dont worrry the right guy will come along
2006-07-28 19:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not weird! I'm 17 and let me tell you from experience don't rush into having a boyfriend especially at such a young age, honestly they will only distract you save yourself the heart ache and just wait a couple of years.
2006-07-28 19:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by shasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what you believe - I like your mature attitude. Don't worry about what people say about this, stick to your guns. You will know when the time is right to start seeing someone; don't go out with someone "just because". You set a very good example - I wish many other girls felt as you do!
2006-07-29 03:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋