My Girlfriends Grandma has died and my girlfriend is under Major depression.
She is cutting herself with a knife and scizzors in her room crying. I cannot stop her. She locks herself up. I never seen her like this before.
I am studdying to become a psychologyst but she will not let me near her because of her grandma. I need help so please tell me what i can do.
Thank You. Give me something i can do asap... she is my world.
2006-07-28 18:56:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've had a problem like this too. My ex was very very very unstable and almost jumped off a building but I ripped her down.
First you HAVE to ask yourself something. Would you rather her live and not be yours, or die and have been yours? If you choose the first then you may want to get out the number of the hospital. Put it on speed dial just in case. This is a girl's life and is worth it!
Before you do that, though, make sure you can't solve this, which is why you're here. Just ask her to sit down with you, tell her you won't nag her about cutting or anything like that but explain that as her boyfriend, a guy who loves her, you're really worried and want to talk it over. Just talk. Talking could change EVERYTHING.
If she still won't let you near by you may need to talk to her parents/guardians. It's very important that she stay safe. Good luck, my friend. I really hope everything turns out ok. I know how much of a heartache this is, going to bed worried to death. Good luck, again!
2006-07-28 19:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
cutting herself with a knife and scizzors get her out of that room NOW. Is there someone else she would feel a safe connection with? Something to get her attention or someone to get her mind off the loss? A family member or friend to take some of the stress off the situation? Let her know you love her and you are there for her and want to be there for her. If none of this works get her to a hospital before she does serious harm to herself.
2006-07-28 19:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your considered one of those romantic guy which you truly want the romance and love considered in the two video clips or books. in my view i comprehend precisely the form you sense unfortuanately life isnt like that. although if adult males have been greater romantic then i think of it could be a win-win situtation. As for the crying ingredient, you shouldnt stress tears out. in case you sense harm or in spite of this is going to happen. maximum adult males do no longer cry, what a pity cuz i like adult males who instruct a minimum of a few emotion. yet while u truly need to cry think of approximately something that makes you incredibly disenchanted or unhappy and probably you will cry LOL. Wow that sounded strange. yet i dont have self assurance that there is something incorrect with you you're just to romantic and your depressed you haven't any longer chanced on that guy or woman to create that attractive novel or academy award triumphing action picture with.
2016-10-01 05:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by larusch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and make a list of which is most impotent for you to Chang. I'd say not loosing her would be #1. and cutting her self would be last if its not fatal cutting. You should do this because you will probably only be able to change one thing and then if you try anything eals she will leave. I'd try to get close to her, but not to close, you almost have to not care to get her to come back for somethings. I invite you to put your self in her shoes. She probably looks at you as being disgusting right now, you want to fill that void and that disgusts her. Just be overly nice to her. Pray, even if your not religions it will help get you in the mind set. Try to not touch her to much unless she touches you first.
As for the cutting, if you really want to change it your going to have to fined something to replace it with.
2006-07-28 19:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by Gumby G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too close to the situation to help her as much as you would like. All you can do is be there for her, and seek professional help for her. There are probably deeper issues, that are making her cut. The cutting is basic pain deviation 101. Good luck.
2006-07-28 19:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by Edith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really nice that u worry for her, but she obviously needs profesional help...
Try to convince her to stop cutting herself and persuade her to go to a specialist who can help her
Also, show her ur support always, let her know that she can count on u for anything and how much u love her
2006-07-28 19:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one i was going to say you really need to be there for her but if she is locking herself in a room???
oh you know you could not make it possible for her to lock herself in a room and just sit and hold her so she cant hurt herself other than that i am out of ideas for you sorry
2006-07-28 19:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals geatest of the wounds, so don't worry. As far as her violence is concerned thats something to worry about. Look you can do a lot all she needs is your care, attention, love. Make her realize that everyone cares for her and its her duty to reciprocate.
Be more expressive of your concerns and how her behaviour is affecting you.
2006-07-28 19:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by wassizaidi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to learnt abt yr gf gone into depression cos very attached to her grandma which is naturally at that moment of sadness & despair.pls get her gf to be close to her & console her,overtime,she will have to face reality of life & accept the facts.be patient & calm & do not be panic in handling such incidents.
2006-07-28 19:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...wish i was someones world...but enough of me. There is nothing you can do except talk to her parents and convince them to let her seek some kind of help. She's suicidal and you lack knowledge on handling this kinds of situation. Just be her boyfriend and love her unconditionally and be there for her in this time of grief. But please let her get help. This kind of behavior can strain your relationship. She cant seem to handle stress and grief well so let her get help. Hope all goes well..Keep us posted
2006-07-28 19:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋