Do inter-racial relationships really hurt the kids??

Question

People say that having a biracial child will cause problems for the child in the future. I personally think this is stupid, that the only problems I can think of would be from people that think that way. Can anyone out there give me perspective on the subject?

Answer 1

Not with my son. infact it brought both of his families together. it's nice to see two cultures coming together for the sake of love. you see, normally, a mexican/italian woman and iraqi/turkish man usually don't fall in love, but when they do- they make beautiful babies. see!

Answer 2

You know dear. I believe that people who think that way, have to many misconceptions about dating other races. I can tell you from a personal experience. I come from a very mixed up family, and I don't see anybody facing any problem at all. Only people that didn't have help to build their self steem have problems. Of course if a kid comes from a parent who already see to much negativity on it, he/she will have problems in the future. Because this parent, will not be able to help the kid to believe in him/herself. If God allows mixing up races it means that there is nothing wrong with it. There are much stronger social issues that humans should be concerned with than biracial child. If you're having a relationship that will result in a biracial child go for it, don't think about what people are going to argument about it. You know what, you're right. It's a stupid thing to think this way. People who really think like that are the ones who have problems with it. They're either racists, descriminatives or just ignorant. Do what your heart tells you to do. May God bless you. Peace.

Answer 3

There are thousands of biracial and multiracial people all over the world. That is a racist argument to try to convince people not to intermarry or to have relationships with people of other races. I am from a multiracial family. Our home is like the United Nations on holidays. All the children are loved and treasured. This is an absurd notion to suggest that they are not or will have problems.

Answer 4

My grandparents were from Mexico and my parents were born here in the U.S. I have Mexican roots. I am married to a man of German/Irish decent. We have two (interracial kids) who look white. So far, we have not had any problems or issues arise as a result of their being interracial. I don't know if the color of my children's skin determines how people treat them. I do believe that being in an interracial relationship can be difficult if the two people in the relationship are not on the same page with respect to their cultural differences. If the couple is in agreement about how they are going to do things in their marriage/relationship and with regard to their children then I see no problems.

Answer 5

You are right. It is stupid! I know this first hand. I have 6 children, 2 stepchildren and 4 grandchildren. Racially and ethnically, they look like the UN. My 3 oldest children are English, Dutch, Italian, German and Cherokee Indian. Percentage wise they are mostly Italian and Cherokee. My 3 youngest children are Black (the ancestry goes as far as Africa but we don't know what country), Cherokee, Black Foot Indian, German and Dutch. My stepchildren are Mexican (Aztec ancestry). One grandchild belongs to one of my oldest children who married a woman from Poland. Another belongs to one of the oldest who married a woman of German and Mexican (Spanish ancestry) parentage. My two youngest grandchildren are from one of my youngest children who married a Mexican man (Aztec ancestry). My stepsons, like my husband, are Mexican (Aztec ancestry).
Our family pictures have everything from blue eyed blonds with straight hair to black eyed brunettes with curly hair. And they are all beautiful. We are a family. My children and grandchildren look beyond color in people. They are all well rounded and have friends of all colors, ethnicities, religions, etc. When they say they are bringing a friend home, the only thing I'm certain of is it will be a good person that will always be welcomed into our home. Beyond that, I'm clueless.
There was a time that someone asked me if I was raising my children to be Black, White or Indian. I remained calm (the question camed from an elderly lady) and told her, "Ma'am, I'm raising them to be Human, to love and respect themselves and others. If they grow up to do that then I have done my job". She just looked at me like I was stupid but she never said another word to me.
Some people may tell you that it depends on where you live. I don't think so. I had 2 children in Maryland then moved to Virginia where I had two more, then to South Carolina where the last two were born. In the past 7 years we have lived in both Arizona and California.
The smartest thing all of my children ever did was to not label themselves or allow others to label them. They refuse to claim any race or ethnicity above another. If a form does not allow such a thing they will live it blank or write in their answer. They are Human and that's what matters.

Answer 6

One of the singers, i think it was mariah Carey, was once on Opra and talked about the horrors of growing up mixed race. I know others who have had this experience. People are cruel on both sides. Unaccepting frm both cultures.

Yet I know children who felt loved and accepted as a mixed race child. It didn't matter. So it depends on the experience. You are taking a risk however as sad as it is. there are more and more mixed race people out there but people still look twice. It is sad because I think mixed race babies are beautiful and the adults i ammost attracted to are mixed race.

Answer 7

In my experience the only problems come from people who say that kind of crap. Some people look for reasons to condemn bi racial relationships so they use the kids for an excuse, to cover their own bigotry. Its easier to be a racist when you dont' have to take responsibility for your actions because "hey, its all about the kids". Bull crap! If a kid has a loving family thats all that matters.

Answer 8

i dont think it will hurt the child as much as they think. i have 2 siblings that are biracial. i think ppl feel they wont know who to hang w/. like w/ the black groups of gurls or white gurls (not being racist but every school has different clicks) but i think they will find a group based on who they are as a person. and if the ppl in school cant look beyond it they arent worthy of knowing that person anyway. i guess its just another thing for racist to complain about and ppl to worry about cuz its different but really i dont see harm in it.

"you know if everyone married someone of another race. then one day there would be no prejudice" -Thirteen (2003 movie)

Answer 9

I have great confidence that future generations will be much more open and intelligent than the current one...in my circle of friends it wouldn't make any difference as long as the child was wanted and loved.

Answer 10

No, it doesn't hurt them at all. You are right, it is only in the minds of those who think that way...a little hidden racism. My children are bi-racial. Half Black and half Mexican, and they turned out just fine.