if your boyfriend had lunch with one of his lady friends..just two of them...Should I have lunch with this lady?
Just a quick question.
2006-07-28 17:40:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
wow, I'm a dude.
2006-07-28 17:46:35 · update #1
I really appreciate the thoughts ya'll, just don't get it twisted..I'm asking if I should go to lunch with one of my new lady friends..I just don't want my girl to stress over this ish..
2006-07-28 17:55:28 · update #2
I would "ask permission" first. Make sure you give her your lady friends name, and where you will be going, and how long you will be out. Give her the full itinerary, that way if for some reason she wants to check on you she can. I am assuming you don't want a relationship with this friend and aren't trying to cover up a date. Also make sure you call your girlfriend, before you go and when the night is over. Be sure to keep your cellphone on, if you have one, cause you don't want your girlfriend to get mad that it is off. If she never doubts you then all this will just make her trust you more. If she does doubt you this will give her peace of mind that you aren't trying to be scandalous. Unless of course you are then disregard my whole answer.
2006-07-28 20:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by mizbehavingirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouln't be upset about it as long as I knew they were friends all along.. My husband and I know that he doesn't have "girl" friends and hasn't since before we've even known each other, so I would question it if he went to lunch with one all the sudden..His answer would determine wether or not I would be uset..
By the way you asked this question, it doesn't appear that this lady is a very old friend of yours.. I wouldn't chance it if she is someone that your girlfriend doesn't already know about.. Honesty is the best policy in my opinion, but it can go both ways. If you are honest with your g/f and this lady is only a friend, then introduce them and all of you go to lunch together, unless you have somthing to hide.
2006-07-29 00:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Deu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be just a little bit jealous. He shouldn't be taking a "lady friend" out to lunch, he should be taking you, but of course I'm not hearing all the details to this story. Maybe they work close to each other and decided to just meet up (paying separately) to eat....very innocent just 2 friends.....but you know what I think (because my boyfriend is a very sociable person too and I have problems with this with him as well....).....just like I told my boyfriend....."when I am with you, I have eyes for you only....I don't want to be with anyone else, I only want you.....therefore I when I see you or when you tell me you are out with other women it is disrespectful to me as your girlfriend." So maybe you have to let him know that this hurts you and bothers you. Just be on your guard because there is always the possibility that there is more to this lady friend than meets the eye...
*Okay.....after re-reading the question and your additional comments, I guess I am confused about what you are asking....well....I hope my answer helps.....I'm confused now....:(
2006-07-29 00:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation... did you ever date this girl? Do you have feelings for this girl? Is there ever a chance of it being more than platonic? Were you friends with this girl before you were with this new woman?
My answer is that I would most likely be okay with my boyfriend having lunch with another woman, as long as it is nothing more than friends and he comes home to me. If he were friends with this girl before we ever met, then heck yea, he could go every day. If he dated her before... I might accompany him to lunch... but just to read her.
Really, it doesn't matter how I feel because I am not your girlfriend. She could be like my sister, unreasonable when it comes to relationships and get upset when you look away from her for one second....
Good luck!
2006-07-29 00:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you're friends with her too. otherwise, what's the point? if you love and trust your boyfriend, there shouldn't be a problem with him having lunch with a girl. or if you're insecure about it, talk to him, but don't go behind his back and have lunch with a girl you might not even know.
2006-07-29 00:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by alexitexmexi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a girl and you want to keep her, NO. How would you feel if she's lunch-en with some guy friend?
2006-07-29 00:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf (or even if he's your husband) can dine with whoever he want. you should have enough confidence in yourself and your relationship to not worry about this. You guys are together, he is commited to be faithful to you. I'd give him the benefits of the doubt. Insecurity is a huge turn off.
2006-07-29 00:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by wasabi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have issues with that....
Was he hoenst and upfront that he was going to have lunch with her though? If he was honest and upfront before hand I would worry to much...but still tell him how you feel about those things for the future
2006-07-29 00:47:48 · answer #8 · answered by specialk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not really o.k. We're all supposed to be "cool" if its just a friend, but in reality it approximates a date. You know how with guys there are no real girls who are friends, just women we haven't "gotten" yet. This could be on his mind here. I did not like it when my wife went out with a "friend", even if they are just friends, it just does not feel right.
Good luck,
Joe
2006-07-29 00:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by appraisallink@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you and the 'lady friend' have any kind of history together, then the answer would be no.
2006-07-29 00:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋