my husband kept sexual wants/preferences a secret throughout our dating life---I thought we were good and had a fun sex life--but over the last 4 yrs of being married i have come to find out he is into porn where women appear to be getting raped, and he himself likes pain during sex--and i am just NOT into it at all...I want to please my husband--but when I try I am so repulsed, I no longer enjoy sex. I am no prude--I just don't associate pain with pleasure....he does--what the heck am I to do?? we have kids so I dont just want a divorce..he really is a good man too...but how can we be married and not be intimate???
2006-07-28 17:29:23 · 6 answers · asked by sosadgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok well I have just learned about submissive men, it is possible that he is one of these men and doesnt realize it, it is also possible he is trying stuff he really is not hardout into because he has an emptyness and is tryong to fill it, and is not sure what exactly will fill it.
you know how you want something to eat, you're not sure what you want, you know you're hungry, you eat something, but still feel hungry because it wasnt what you wanted...
its kind of like that.
try:
http://www.aroundherfinger.com/
or
http://www.elisesutton.homestead.com/Main.html
I could be off the track but its worth a go right?
he might be lloking at women being raped because he just likes the idea of pain, its not necassarily a women thing, he might not be able to find a site where men get treated like this from women perhaps? I dont know, but good luck with your journey and I hope it works out for the better.
Jo
2006-07-28 17:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by miss-pelld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fu - @ K! I don't know. Try going to a counsler, because that really IS out of the norm and you ARE NOT a prude for feeling repulsed by it. Sorry and good luck.
2006-07-28 17:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get freaky with him, let him tie you up and spank you dress in some freaky outfits...you know like role play. You better do something for go goes out and rapes some body. Have you asked him why he likes that kind os sex?? ???? ???
2006-07-28 17:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by UlickNme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's into kinky sex..I'm really sorry for you and the children..would you rather stay with him and lose your self respect just because of the children...please!!!!, You need to love yourself first to be able to love others, I'm sure you love your children very much...respect yourself...Leave HIM....
2006-07-28 17:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by racheljackson54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to consider counseling, i think he may need it.
You may also, just to be able to cope.
Good luck!
2006-07-28 17:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR HUSBAND IS A SICKO
2006-07-28 17:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by keanda g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋