i worked with my best friend but not anymore she was fired for tellin her boss she smelled, her boss lady always talked to her smart and arrogant my friend took this crap for 3 years last week she finally told her after smellin her butt for 3 years she smelled i told her that was not right thing to do just do ur work and get that money ?? whats ur opinon was it right are wrong?
2006-07-28 17:25:57 · 26 answers · asked by blk_female_x 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
It was wrong. Certainly it wasn't right to tell her to her face. If you play the Office Politics game, and know it well, you know that a subordinate shouldn't say something like that to their superior. What she should have done was spoke to Human Resources confidentially. HR would have addressed the issue with the supervisor. What a shame though. How hard it must have been to work for a horrible supervisor with major B.O.!!!
2006-07-28 17:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I'm sure your best friend was probably pretty close to this boss if she smelled her butt for 3 years and it would seem the boss would be pretty attached to her with all that butt smelling and all so I understand where the boss might get upset with the revelation that she smells. But oh well, what can you do. Seriously though there is usually a way to do things and to do them diplomatically and it's never good to make someone else feel bad which telling someone they smelled would do. It might have been better for her to try to do it in a more subtle way such as mentioning to the boss that she had a "friend" who smelled bad and wasn't aware of it and how would the boss handle that. That might make the boss think at least. But all in all if the choice is between saying something and just not saying anything, sometimes you just have to be quiet and work and get your checks in the working world so I would agree with you.
2006-07-29 00:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by jljdc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its important to tell but depends on how it is communicated. These are personal issues and can be get to be a pricky thing. Much against our wishes, we woudl need to exercise care and thought when broaching these topics. For instance, your friend could have used an opportunity to gift her a deodrant, during a conversation brought up a point that she stumbled upon a new perfume / deo that she thinks would compliment the boss's persona etc. It may sound cheap to talk like this but there are not enough ways, in my knowledge, where you can bluntly talk about it, especially when its a boss. So try these subtle hints and they will work. In fact the more innovative and creative you get, the better. But remember never humiliate or insult.
2006-07-29 00:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always the job of a manager to tell an underling that they have bad personal hygiene. A peon should never do that. Personal hygiene is a very sensitive subject, and can hurt someone's feelings, though I know how it is to work with a smelly person and how badly it hurts your sense of smell. Your friend should have gone to her boss's boss, not only about the hygiene issue, but also about how she was being treated by her boss. Unless the boss was the owner, there is always a superior to the boss :)
2006-07-29 00:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ONE should be continuously disprescted, belittled or taken advantage of on their job no matter who their boss is. Sounds like she got fedup of being walked on and she made a point... as long as your friend was ready for the consequences which was the end of her job and had a legitimate reason for finally telling her boss how she really feels. If the job is all you have at the moment, and you have nothing lined up to fall back on... by all means be careful of what you say if your boss isn't beig so out of hand or oversteps her boundaries. Each circumstance is different and of course really depends on many factors.
2006-07-29 00:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a person should NOT tell her boss that she smells, unless that person is trying to commit employment suicide. Your friend deserved to get fired (sounds like she should have quit years ago anyway). However, as a good friend, you should not tell your friend that she was wrong. Let her get fired a few times so she will learn on her own how to treat her superiors.
2006-07-29 00:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by 1angelcares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try making subtle hints. Steer the conversation around to bathing habbits. Leave air fresheners in the office. When your boss walks into a room, say, "Ohhh, what smells?" and turn around and act surprised when you make eye contact with your boss.
2006-07-29 00:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a person should be fired. But the boss makes the rules. Maybe she could have left little hints by leaving deodarant or soap or perfume on her desk once in a blue moon.
2006-07-29 00:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by sirblackie88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have be a phony if you want to keep your job. But it sounded like your friend was sick of the job and wanted to be fired. So, she told her boss she smelled, and got to be fired! Talk about killing two birds with one stone, eh?
2006-07-29 00:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm okay I think it's constructive it said in the right way. "You stink!" Is a bad idea. But if you pull her to the side and tell her nicely and politely then I'm sure she might be a bit embarrassed but she'd appreciate it.
2006-07-29 00:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by WILSON 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋