Do I have a right to feel intolerant of rudeness/lack of cleanliness seen in foreign cultures in a Texas gym?

Question

I live in and belong to a health club in a very multi-cultural, high lower class neighborhood. I see lack of etiquette and rules broken without any apparent concern. The management is all minority and does not appear concerned. The manager is not a US citizen. Complaints of rule violation often get no response at all from management, and even when they do respond, the effect is minimal. I find myself wondering if the only way to live in polite society in this city is to make more money than I could imagine and paying to move to a "better neighborhood" Is that what it has come to in America?

Several responders seemed to key in on the rudeness part and forget the rule violation part. And I don't go to a better gym or live in a better neighborhood because I am disabled and cannot afford to do either. In the past I went to gyms where there were way fewer recent immigrants and the behavior there was quite different. And if I had seen people just like me on the outside behaving in this way, I would have taken a stand against that as well.

Answer 1

Yep.

Answer 2

Now just hold on there partner. Let's examine this for a moment. People of different cultures deem certain things polite or rude. Our culture (western) has a different view than some others on what is and is not acceptable.

You maybe need to be less concerned with what others do and more concerned with what you do. Are you friendly and personable to others...no matter their race, nationality, religion, or color?

Beyond that, if someone is really doing some nasty stuff and the management turns their cheek, you should take your business elsewhere. There are loads of gyms in the world and I will bet you could find one that suits you.

Answer 3

Seems like you need to join a different gym. You definetly have the right to feel intolerant. But I believe that your actions will show what kind of person you are. You have to understand that what you think is a standard may not be for other, especially to other foreign cultures.

I don't think that your question is a question of cleanliness or social etiquate. It just seems like you are not able to adjust to others behavior. That is your right. And also, it is your right to not put up with it and you should leave that gym.

Answer 4

I understand your frustration with the way things are at the gym you attend. Intolerance is powerful and I find that it does not solve my problems. It sounds like you are not in a position to join another gym because of your economic circumstances so you may have to make the best of a dirty situation. Is the gym subject to public health codes? Can you get help from your local authorities? You cannot make people be polite to you but you can arm yourself with a container of cleaning/antibacterial wipes so that you can decontaminate the equipment before you use it.

Answer 5

You have the right to feel anyway you like dear,now pay close attention. Does feeling that way serve you? It took me an hour to explain to a friend that a coworker could not make him mad.I love explaining in difference and helping. OK so you see things and want to do something about it,My first suggestion for you is that you can do change anything you like,just start thinking about it,and clear your thoughts for the answer,I garantee you an answer.It may be something like talking with other members and sort of creating your own little movement. I wonder if you may want to look see if you have any messy habits because we all reflect from others what is within ourselves like prejedus,and judgement, dont let yourself down,look to your own spirit

Answer 6

Instead of worrying about feeling intolerant why don't you go to a different gym? As to your observations, it could be a combination of ignorance and cultural differences. I wouldn't make the mistake of thinking that everyone who isn't a U.S. citizen in this country is like that. Plus there are plenty of rude and unclean people who were born here and don't have the excuses that I posited for the immigrants.

Answer 7

Where's he from? I know that most of the illegal hispanics down here in Houston were at least raised to get the sh*t slapped out of them if they were disrespectful.

Answer 8

of course. and i would spend a few extra dollars and go to a better gym

Answer 9

You have the right to feel that way about anybody.

Answer 10

yes