I met this man in college we dated for about a year, i then moved on and got married two times since this man, he got married on e time for only 6 months, he then still keep in contact threw my second marriage, he still says he loves me after all these years. i never had a really attraction toward himbecause he is not the best looking, but he always gave me anything i wanted when we did date. I am now separated from my second marriage and filing for a divorce, he still wants me and wants to be married tome. He is dating another woman and has adopeted her son as his but he he said he did not want to marry her, but he says he will leave this woman afete about 2 years and be with me, i feel that is not right because he is now leaving that woman who he had maybe some feelings for cause he adopoted her child. what do you think. he also have another child by accident by another person that is his child, he has no dealing with her at all. should i give him a chance he want give up.
2006-07-28 17:18:31 · 21 answers · asked by girlmiddle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jerry Springer ?????????????????????
2006-07-28 17:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by yummy_bi_baby_bi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had he not adopted the one child, I would have said try dating him for a while. One way or the other, whatever your decision, try dating for a while! He's adopted this child, so he's assuming the role of father to the child. He must now think in terms of the well being of that child, and not his own well being. Are you sure he actually adopted the child, or maybe did he tell you that to make you think higher of him? I would be surprised if he were able to adopt a woman's child he's just dating. Is it possible they are really married? I'm surprised you allowed him to interfere with your second marriage by keeping in touch with him. I wish you well with this, but I must remind you, the grass always only looks greener on the other side, it rarely is. My ultimate wish for you is that you take a little time to be single, find yourself, then consider a relationship with someone who has a little less baggage.
2006-07-29 00:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not attracted to him and are leading him on to get what you want you are USING him and that is very low. I understand you may find it flattering after all this time and going through a divorce is not easy so you feel good about being wanted but if you dont care about him why would you even let him consider leaving his wife or whatever she is and his child? You are right it is wrong, so tell him that. Tell him that the two of you have to future together and you have not ever been physically attracted to him. Be honest, lying is just as wrong as cheating.
And please I am very confused, are you saying he may have accidentally gotten his daughter pregnant? 20 years and 2 husband ago is a country song, this is a Springer episode.
2006-07-29 00:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? My goodness woman, don't you see through this guy? It's all about him. What makes you think that you would be exempt from the same treatment he's given these other women?
Think about what you wrote. He's had another child by "accident" by another person. Wake up. Don't concern yourself with this man any further.
2006-07-29 00:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a user. He has financial obligations to 2 children...does he actually pay any support? If you marry him you will have to pay HIS child support and medical insurance. He is a serial womanizer.When you go ahead and disregard all of the advice that has been given to you. Just remember...I told you so.
2006-07-29 00:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a situation.
I believe the man is not loyal. He offers you materialistic possessions, but the real question you should really ask yourself is "Does he offer you passionate care and love?"
Long-term relationships are based on good communication, mutual respect.
Looks sometimes help, but it's not the most important element.
2006-07-29 00:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AFTER 20 YEARS, ETC, ABND STILL PLAYING THE FIELD HEY, HMM, SOUNDS LIKE HES REALLY HAD IT INN FOR YOU YOU SAY HE HAS NO LOOKS IS HE BALD FAT DUMPY?? YOU SOUND LIKE YOU ARE AFTER THE OOKS, THERE HONS, IF HES A REAL DOG, OR FAT BALD DUMPY GET RID OF HIM I THINK YOU WANT A ADONISS, ETC, IT SONDS LIKE FOR SOMEONE THAT IS FAT DUMPY BALD HERE HE HAS BEN A VERY VERY BUSY BOY AND WIL NEVER SETTLE DOWNE HERE WITH ALL THE CRAP HE HAS MARRRRIED FATHERED, AND LEFT BEHIND IN THE DUST SOUNDS LIKE A REAL WINNERR, I WOULDENT GET INVILVEED HERE LOOK AT HIS TRACK RECORD YOU REALLY WANT THIS MES FOR A GUY IN YOUR LIFE, RIGHT AKE UP SMELL THE COFEE, HE MAY DUMP YOU TOO LIKE A HOT POTATO, HES LOOKING FOR A FAST FLING OR BIG PURSE FULL OF MONEY ETC. DUMP HIM HONS, HES DATINMG ANOTHER FLOZZIEE, WHAT DOES THAT TELL YOU USE YOUR HEADD
2006-07-29 00:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could not adopt her child when they are not married.
HOW MANY children will he be paying child support for ? If he will not pay child support for his kids; he's not worth dealing with on that alone.
Someone else said it better----it sounds realllll creepy. You be very careful !
2006-07-29 00:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by madamspinner2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with the guy I knew twenty years ago too. We are going on three years now and it is wonderful. You never know until you step out and take that chance.
2006-07-29 00:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm i would tell him to take a hike and then get a resrtraining order!!!! he sounds like a pig! tells you he will leave some one for you?? no way he'll string both of you around for years if you let him.
tell him no and then go rent Waiting to Exhale and Micky and Maude. pop some pop corn sit down watch and learn!!
2006-07-29 00:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by naightengale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. It is only a flirtation. If you get together we will see you on the Jerry Springer Show.
2006-07-29 00:23:17 · answer #11 · answered by older woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋