I want to fall back in love with him, but I can't?

Question

I was dating this remarkably perfect boy for 17 months almost. I broke up with him because I thought I was falling out of love with him. I felt extremly uncomfortable being around him, talking to him, and him touching me. I realized what a big mistake I made though after the break up and desperately wanted him back as my boyfriend. He's finally gotten back into contact with me. We weren't talking for 5 months and he's finally come around again because I was feeling extremly depressed and I missed him so much.
I'm starting to feel the same way I did before the break up. I don't want to feel uncomfortable but I do. I honestly want to love him again. He just did so much for me and I cared about him so much in the past. He was my best friend. ]: I don't see how I wanted to get back together for 5 months and now that he's back I get all uncomfortable again. D: I don't want to feel uncomfortable.
Why do i feel uncomfortable?! It's almost as I'm scared to love him again.

Answer 1

It sounds to me like you like the "comfort" of having him around but truly don't love him. It isn't fair to him for you to keep bouncing in and out of his life like this. Make a decision and stick with it.

Answer 2

You are suffering from the BTN syndrome--Better Than Nothing. You were lonely without a boyfriend and he was better than nothing. You are behaving in a very needy fashion. Get out and find some new hobbies, activities, and friends and give the poor guy a break. You will feel better about yourself and will be ready for a relationship after you have developed a good relationship with yourself. Right now, you just aren't ready. Good luck.

Answer 3

He sounds to me like he is your best friend. I think its ok to tell him that he is your best friend. LEt him know that you care for him from the depths of your heart, but that being his girlfriend just doesn't feel right.. If he is a true friend he will understand and you will have your friendship just the same.. If your not honest with him, then it could turn into a situation to where you both end up without each other in life.. I think your friendship is more valuable than that... Good luck..

Answer 4

Don't you get it? You two don't match. Something is wrong in this relationship and your gut is telling you but you don't want to listen. There IS a problem here. If you are uncomfortable there is a definite reason. . . whether it is in your past or present. . . or his only you know. The relationship won't work.

Answer 5

simple.... u get disillusioned every time u realise that he's there for u n start to feel bored..... but do watever remember only one thing....ur change of mind again n again will not only help u lose ur boyfriend but a good friend and ur own n his confidence... so watever u do jus think bout the consequences... all the best

Answer 6

well you can't force yourself to love someone.. you either do or you don't. But you should try to go out with him again. Just to see how you feel. If you were depressed without him then obviously you care about him alot.
good luck

Answer 7

Don't do it girl. Don't take him back. Maybe you two aren't right for each other. Even though you think that he's the perfect one for you, trust me, it wouldn't work out. Maybe now, but in the future things might be different... LISTEN TO YOUR HEART!

Answer 8

You can't force yourself to love someone, it has to come naturally. It sounds to me that you just need someone in your life and you probably enjoy his company , but truly I don't think your in love with him and you never will. I would suggest to just be good friends!

Answer 9

well u should nt feel uncomfortable maybe u know u guys have feelings four each other u guys should talk it out let each other how u feel good luck gurl let me know how it goes