He's on the phone right now, we were talking about my daughter. We've been divorced for 13 years. Now, he's telling me all bs. I want to puke...
2006-07-28 16:56:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's relating and re-hashing our relationship & divorce -- how we got divorced. what the situation was- or what he thinks it was.
I have to be nice because he can be vicious otherwise.
This is just my way of ignoring him right now. I'm just acting like I'm listening to him while I type this.
2006-07-28 17:28:44 · update #1
Groan. And here I thought 2 years was bad enough. Can I join you for a DRINK??? LOL. You should email me. Maybe we can come up with something together. (Does he also hang up on you if you say "I'm just at the bank..." click?) They obviously haven't gotten over us. I'll be watching for good replies. SO sorry I have nothing to help with.
2006-07-28 17:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 5⤋
Hey first of all congrats your husband is feeling miserable about the divorce hence this calling and having recap about your marriage. Honey if he was in a relationship and it was going somewhere positive he wud be the last person to call u and talk to u.
Maybe he misses being married to u. They never admit they were wrong.Thats why he is going for a recap of marriage which ended 13 years ago.
2006-07-29 02:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex did that to me too but I put a stop to that the day our divorce was final. You do not have to take anything from him and you should tell him that. If your daughter is young and you both have custody then discussion about her will happen but in the long run you hang up the phone and do what you want!
2006-07-29 00:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good news! My younger child turned 18, graduated, and my ex had him declared emancipated. I no longer have to deal with the ex!! He was the vindictive type of person who would drag me to court for not telling him when one of the kids went to the doctor. He caused me to spend well over $10,000 in legal fees over the course of our divorce. He would never confront me in person. It was always through the court system. Now that there is no reason to have contact I am so happy!!
For 10 years I swallowed my pride and did not get into an argument with him on the phone. I did not want to start any type of trouble so I agreed to everything. It is finally over. My best advice is to grit your teeth, put on your best performance, and sweetly respond to his calls. There will finally come and end!
2006-07-29 00:39:44 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the conversation to a minimum - just about your child. As soon as he gets off topic, use a predetermined line to get off the phone quickly.
sorry, but I really don't have time to talk right now...
I'm in the middle of a really good movie...
the other line is ringing...
someone's at the door...
I'm getting ready to leave...
something just boiled over on the stove...
At least that way you're not being rude and you get to end the phone call before it goes south.
2006-07-29 00:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by vw4meee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't have to listen to any of it. Seeing how you have been divorced for thirteen years now, you really don't have any reason to have to listen to his b.s. Talking to your ex about your child is normal as long as you keep it within the confines of just that. Anything other than that you shouldn't have to entertain. Kindly tell him that you have another call to make and say "bye".
2006-07-29 00:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your objective is (and what his crap is)
Is he being simply boring, or is he abusive to you.
If your objective is to maintain some sort of relationship for your daughters sake then you can think about what way is best to do that, and how much are you willing to sacrafice to do it.
In dealing with any other human being (including your ex) It all depends on what you ultimately want to accomplish and what the best way to do that is.
2006-07-29 00:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by lapaul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to listen to any of it. You and your daughter have a relationship. He and his daughter have a relationship. You and he do not. Get it?
2006-07-28 23:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by normobrian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughter is getting old enough, that he need to communicate with you, unless she is sick., tell him to f u c k off, plain and simple, he just wants to keep a hold on U.. He needs to move on and get a life.. ya know.. :D
2006-07-29 00:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by Hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he like you and he is going to get your attention, but he don't know you are puking, actually he is a unlucky man
2006-07-29 00:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋