we separated because things was just not working out, he claim he was moving out of town this was Father's day. Why i see this man 2 weeks later saying he just came back to do some handyman on working on houses. I trieds to make things work but he refuse saying he was not happy with me anymore. Should i be upset that he did not call or should i answer my own question and say he really did't care or think of me anyway, When he seen me the other day he said where is your ring i told him i took it off after he said he did not want me anymore, i stop calling him and now i guess he is wondering what i am doing. He was caught cheating by my daughter, and after that he did't want to come back, he was caught by my daughter kissing someone else.
2006-07-28 16:53:44 · 18 answers · asked by girlmiddle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HES PROBABLY GETTING LAID TO CELEBRATE
2006-07-28 16:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want this man back? He has done nothing but hurt you. You are worth so much more than this jerk. He has he wanted out, honey, if I were you I would find me a babysitter for tomorrow, call up some friends, and say "Hey, let's celebrate" Celebrate your new beginning, from a lying cheating man. You deserve so much more, do not waste anymore of your precious life on this guy. There are plenty of men, real men out there looking for a woman that is truthful and faithful. So, go get you a new hairdo, a new outfit, and start that new chapter in your life. I know you love him, and I am not saying you can forget him over night, but don't sit by the phone waiting for him to call. I am sorry that this happening to you and your daughter, especially her catching her daddy kissing another woman. That was wrong of him to put the child in any position that could happen. Take your precious daughter's hand and take that first step away from him. You can do this, I promise you that very day it will get a little bit better than the day before. Think of yourself for a change! You should be angry not sadden-because no one should be cheated on! One day you will find your prince, just consider your husband another frog in the pond...keep kissing till you catch the right one! God bless us all...........
2006-07-28 17:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just because he didn't call you doesn't mean he wasn't thinking of you or realizing it was the anniversary. But, honestly, the whole situation sounds pretty bad. I'm sorry for what you're going through. I think if the both of you don't want to go for some counseling to see if it can all be sorted out, then you would have to assume it's best to move forward from the separation to a divorce so you can both have a chance to find some happiness. Good luck.
2006-07-28 16:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this but you need to move on honey. He does NOT deserve you. You sound like a very sweet and caring person and there are PLENTY of BETTER men out there for you to give your love to that will actually GIVE IT BACK to you in return. Get over him, he is trash and a liar. He isn't a man. Give yourself some time to heal and get strong again, then worry about meeting a new guy.
The only way to get through this is time. I know it hurts, I have been in your shoes, just let it out. Be strong in yourself and KNOW that you DON'T need anyone. The right man will come along one day and you will wonder why you ever felt this way for that fool. Good luck to you and just know that every tear shed over that loser is a tear wasted. Chin up girl.
2006-07-28 17:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by Gynolotrimena Lubriderma-Smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please! You deserve better than him. If your own child caught him cheating and he says he doesn't love you anymore, quit thinking about him and do what is right for you and your child. This man sounds like a waste of your time. I know that six years is hard to let go of, but if he is cheating on you and telling you he doesn't want you anymore, there really isn't anything you can do to try to win him back without making an azz out of yourself. Pick yourself up and dust is azz off of you and start out on a new adventure in life that will make you and your daughter happier!
2006-07-28 17:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I empathize, but you have to look at this differently(i know easier said than done). Today is the first day of the rest of your new life! That man obviously didn't want you and went to great lengths to prove it. Did you really want him to call and wish you a happy greeting for something that was so miserable? What you want is to be wanted, to be loved, and he cast you aside. That hurts. But it doesn't mean your life ends there. You have a daughter to be strong for and she is going to learn by example. Do you want her to say it's okay if she's cheated on by her husband, do you want her to say it's okay her husband treats her like crap? No, you don't. You want her to have what everyone women wants.....A loving, caring husband who adores his wife for who she is. Throw this man back in the dumpster you found him in(who leaves a daughter on father's day?), living a happy, healthy and fulfilling life is going to be your best revenge. You can't make someone want you, but you can find someone else who does. You deserve that in your life!
2006-07-28 17:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this year has tainted your heart with the discolor of sorrow and grief. It sounds like hubby wants his cake and eat it too; he wants a drawn out seperation, praying you don't go after him for a divorce and child support.
It's time to fight fire with fire and play hubby's game like YOU are the chessmaster.
Contact a divorce lawyer--one that goes for the jugular in court. Have them lock down a divorce deal ASAP. You'll know when he gets served papers. No matter what's said: you maintain a calm, plesant composure when speaking to him: tell him to further contact with you can be made to YOUR lawyer.
The bedroom is off limits: seperated guys usually get the blue balls and want some ( you know WHAT ) when they know they're done for. He'll likely hire a private eye detective, so you can't carry on with life just yet. Remember: YOU are the chessmaster.
Once you have the deal set and needs signatures, sign your portion of the documents. Arrange a public lunch meeting with hubby, show him the papers and tell him if he signs, you'll know he'll bear resonsibility as SEPERATED people. Tell him also that you'll get a room at a hotel, share champange with him, shred the SIGNED divorce papers and give him the wildest sex of his dreams. Be sure he signs the papers and put them in your purse. Tell him you'll call him with the place and time to meet you. Sound and act convincing.....tell him to clear his night schedule for the night after next.
ASAP then: take the SIGNED papers to your lawyer, have him / her lock it down legal. You're pretty much free now....time for some fun....
Have you and the kids packed ready to go on the fly to somewhere nice and out of town. Quietly slip out of town. When you and the kids arrive to your hotel room, call the hubby on your cellphone and leave a message on his voicemail.
Tell him "Guess what, dear? We're legally DIVORCED!! Isn't that great? See: I changed my mind. You enjoyed having your cake and eating it too....and I got tired of being hurt. You were right: I don't need YOU in my life. Well....don't party too late tonight, you have to get up early for work....after all--you can't be late with the child support check. Be a good sport and have it sent to me on time, OK? Well, take care now....enjoy freedom, I surely will. The kids love you....I however.....don't. Bye!"
Aaaahhhh....to play the game and play it to win!!!!
2006-07-28 17:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you daughter saw him kissing someone. Maybe its a sign for u to move on too.More attention we give to a person the more they neglect us. once u turn the tables and start neglecting them they come running back.
why dont u try to meet some people. Misery is only stretched for however long we stretch it. once we stop stretching it. it ends. do the same.get a makeover start meeting people. if your husband is still in the same city he will definitely know and come to see your new transformation.
2006-07-28 19:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want this marriage to work you will need to talk to him and tell him your feelings. Marriage counselling works if both parties agree to it. He's probably trying to tread lightly around you and wasn't sure what type of reception he would get if he called to wish you a happy anniversary. This is something you need to get in the open and see how you both feel about your marriage.
2006-07-28 17:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trapped you into marriage with suggestions from being pregnant? wager he did not felt trapped at the same time as he develop into ******* you. the guy appears like an ***, in case you concept u must have left previously and nonetheless do you've gotten wasted a lengthy time period, ought to correctly be better to leave now previously you recognize you need to have left at present 10 years from now.
2016-11-26 21:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl move on he doesn't care about you anymore. Life is too short to be chasing and wishing after somebody that already has their mind made up. You can do a lot better and you deserve a lot better!
2006-07-28 16:59:42 · answer #11 · answered by CPSweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋