My husband and I got seperated at the beginning of May. We couldn't get along so we decided to seperate because he wanted me to agree to everything that he did. By the middle of May he filed for divorce when I thought we were going to try to work it out.
My daughter went over to his house for the weekend visit and informed me that there was a girl staying there at the house. My daughter is 4 years old. I don't think she realizes what is going on but it bothers me because we haven't even had the divorce final yet and already there is a female living in my old house.
Should it bother me?
2006-07-28 16:47:00 · 5 answers · asked by Christina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It should bother you some because its so soon and I'm pretty sure your a little hurt over the whole situation. But time will heal that. Theres nothing you can really do. Just continue on with your life, and smile and be the best mom you can be to your daughter. She's the only one that matters now.
2006-07-28 16:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by lolio_5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it should bother you. It is too soon for him to find a healthy relationship, so you know what he is after with her. It should bother you because even though you are separated you have not yet divorced. It should bother you that you had no idea and sent your 4 year old there in good faith. You can't control what he does, but you can control your reaction to it. Watch you child for her reactions and make sure she knows that mommy and daddy are not married anymore. I hope he has the decency to keep from too much of a public display in front of your daughter. If any one says something to you about your almost-ex-husband's behavior just hold your head high and tell them you really don't know and really don't care.
2006-07-29 00:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it should bother you, because you were married and shared a life and child together. Men can be real f**king pigs. You should find out who is this person because they are around your child and he should have the common courtesy to inform you. But find out and forget about him and find you a nice good man
2006-07-28 23:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by christine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should it bother you? No, but of course it does. Since you two are separted, what he does is his business. It's just that you still have ties, and feelings. Inevitable, hurtful, and sad. The whole situation sucks. But, it will get easier. It just takes time.
2006-07-29 13:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it should bother you.... but why does it bother you... is it because your daughter saw something inappropriate or is it because your heart that he moved on so quickly... I went through the same thing... and just live to know she will be his next ex
2006-07-28 23:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by luv2lysalittle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋