ive known this girl for a long time and recently we broke the friendship barrier and had sex.now she says she loves me but she cant be my g.f coz that would ruin the friendship.i dont want her as my girl but i dont want to see her with some other loser.what to do?
ps:forgeting her isnt an option,ive tried that already and she always calls and i end up picking up.
2006-07-28 15:36:22 · 6 answers · asked by mykall306 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
well I would think if she was your friend and she loved you, then that would be the ultimate relationship.. If she just wanted to be your friend she wouldn't of went all the way. My guess is she wants to keep you hanging around just in case she hits a low spell. So go ahead, answer the phone but don't wait for it to ring. make a couple of new friends for yourself, if you get my drift. In fact if she See's you with one of your new friends most likely she will change her mind about being only friends with you. GOOD LUCK
2006-07-28 15:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Lori L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you forget her? You guys shared your bodies andshe said she loves you. Let her know bynot going forward that might end the friendship she's trying to protect. Personally it's my opinion she's either freaked out about change or she's just using you. Go with the first conclusion, if it's wrong the next line of questioning will bring that out.
Tell her how much (if you do) you want her to be in an exclusive relationship with you. Let her know you weren't interested in a booty call, nor we're you just trying to "sample" the goods out of curiosity. If you were then don't sweat it- just agree and let her do whatever, ignore what happened. BUT IF YOU DIDN"T then tell her you're a little disgusted she thinks you could ever use her that way, or allow someone to use you like that.
Push the point, and tell her movingto the nextstep will make things really great between the two of you. Keep protection a number one priority in all things from now on.
If one or both of you are under 18 for Gods sake please stop fooling around. It's illegal and that means parent's could press charges if they find out (and trust me, they will. No one is blind, just a little oblivious for a SHORT time)
and (duh) breaking the law IS BAAAAAAD.
If she's using you eventually she'll comeout and say it was no big deal to her out of frustration (because you won't quit reassuring her it's what you think would be best.)
IF this comes out RUN, run like you've never run before. This chic is mean and there's no telling how else she'll mess with your heart.
Good Luck and thanks for the points
2006-07-28 22:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by superandy_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't have it both ways. She wants to avoid the actual relationship because it's safe...but now that you guys have crossed that line...she needs to make a choice.
Besides...who says the friendship has to die when she becomes your girlfriend? My husband is my best friend!!! Sure-it's possible that if the romantic relationship ended then the friendship will, too...but now that you've had sex...it may happen anyway.
2006-07-28 22:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by redfernkitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is change yourself. You know that you can only have so much influence on the way others think, but if you change the way you think, you'll see life is just easier.
2006-07-28 22:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know that Guns N' Roses song, "I used to love her?" Cool song.
2006-07-28 22:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don' be greedy. You want to have your cake and eat it too.
2006-07-28 22:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋