How Do I Avoid Being Hurt Again?

Question

I have finnaly got over loosing my GF but now i've lost someone hat was pretty much my best mate and it was a female.

I was abit controling within both relationships and was always wanting to impress, but was never told til yesterday that its too much, me wanting to do things for people.

So my overall question is "What am I able to do within myself so that I am not hurt when it comes to another GF?"

answers from both guys and girls will be accepted.

Thanks.

Mitch
Launceston, Tasmania
Australia.

Answer 1

You can't avoid feeling hurt in hurtful situations... it is just a part of life...

You can make the next relationship a bit easier on you and your partner by just backing off and giving them some space..

Answer 2

One can always work on self-improvement. There are a number of ways to do this, and many self-improvement books have been written over the years. Do whatever you can.

But, in the end, there is no way to guarantee you won't be hurt again, this is not possible.

"No pain; no gain."

Also, you need neutral opinions of some sort. Just because a person close to you says you have a problem does not mean they are right. This would mean they are always right, and you are always wrong. This is also not to be taken for granted.

One example of this, is that many women call men selfish, which too often means he does not spend all his time thinking about her every need, want, though, and desire. Hee, hee. I wish I were joking.

Live is complicated, and when other people are involved, it is even more so.

Answer 3

I am sorry to say that hurt is simply a part of life and you never know what tomorrow may bring. You can be in what you think is the best relationship in the world, and suddenly..... So, there is really nothing you can do to avoid being hurt again. Accepting that you don't know what tomorrow will bring and there is nothing you can do about it anyway is very freeing. Do your best in the day you are in.

However, you can learn to like yourself, be yourself, and stop trying to so hard to make others like you. They have to like you for you. Also, most people like to be able to reciprocate. If you are always the one doing things for someone else, when do they ever get a chance to do something for you? If someone says, "No, I can do that myself," then let them.
Good luck to you!

Answer 4

To be bluntly honest, the only way to avoid being hurt again is to become celebate. Being hurt is a part of all relationships, up to and including marriage. Some hurts are worse than others, some fights dirtier than others, but they always come no matter what. Even in marriage you will hurt one another from time to time, but you make up and move on and learn from it. Sorry, but that's what happens.


Just my 2 cents worth

Answer 5

I think you just answered your own question. You'll have to figure out how to not control your friends and girlfriends, to let them be. You'll also have to work on just being who you are and whenever you want to do something to impress someone, stop yourself! Just say no! lol
This is the beginning of maturity, when we realize we have a "flaw" and we want to do something positive about it to improve. Excellent work dude! You'll get it!

Answer 6

Become more humble. And next time your gf or someone brags, let them brag and just be like, "oh that's great" and compliment them. Do NOT act like you know much about the subject. Be more smooth about it. Brag far more less.

~Amor

God bless yo soul

Answer 7

Listen bro, act normal around them, but every time ur together say to ur self " stoneheart" that way u dont fall for them easily, when u are sure to fall then do it passionaty, just be cautious.

Answer 8

Well im gonna break up with my bf tonight soo alls im saying is that for this not to happen to u.........respect her!!! not just like being a gentlemen but respect what she does and doesnt wana do with you.......and above all there is just no guarentee that u wont be hurt........it just happens........

good luck :)