Ok, so my brother is having a wedding on a Friday and he's having the rehearsal on the Wednesday before. He's doing this for the sole purpose of the bride and groom not only not seeing each other the night before but the entire day as well.
Do you think that I am wrong to think that they are being rude to ask people to take an extra day off of work and pay for an extra night in a hotel for a reason like that? If they had anything planned for the Thursday between I probably wouldn't be as upset, but since they don't I think that they’re being a little ridiculous. The wedding is far enough away that nothing is reserved so that isn't an issue.
I realize that it’s “their day” but I don’t really see that as a license to completely disregard the lives of the others involved. I’m still going to go through with whatever he decides on, but I’m just looking for some perspective on this situation. What do you think?
2006-07-28 15:09:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you have to pay to stay in a hotel and miss Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday at work...that is a lot to ask money wise. Plus it would be inconvenient to ask for 2 days off of work...but 3, I don't think I could do that even months in advance at my job.
If he wants to have a whole day in between the rehearsal and the wedding then he should get married on a Sunday like most people, then he could have the rehearsal on Friday night and you and the wedding party would only have to miss 1 day of work.
I'm sure if they have picked a date it's not going to change now.
It is his day and by agreeing to be part of the wedding you are agreeing to all of these little hassles.
It's probably not worth causing a stink over but be sure you remember how it feels when you are planning your wedding so you can be more considerate.
He's being rude but it is his day, all you can do is suck it up I suppose...in 5 years will it really be that important?
Good Luck and try to have fun anyway.
2006-07-28 15:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by az 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand where you are coming from. The tradition is for the bride and groom not to see each other past midnight the day of there wedding... i do not understand why they are having a complete day of nothing in-between the rehersal dinner and the wedding. but it is there day so all you can do is go along with it and be happy for your brother and soon to be sister-in-law.
2006-07-28 22:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by ~MRS. PILKINGTON~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its their day. people do all sorts of kooky things when they plan weddings, and usually never fail to offend someone with one of the details.
Since the wedding is this Friday...i wouldn't look to see him changing any of the plans. Swallow the pill, and go have a good time.
2006-07-28 22:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by texasmiss2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of people who have done that, in fact I intend to do the same. I know that it may cause complications but it is also really sweet, and most people understand that.
2006-07-28 22:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by beachchic705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally im a very generous person maybe too generous so i would say "come on its a once in a lifetime oppurtunnity" but you hey its up to you
2006-07-28 22:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by yaaks1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋