i dont wanna be gay :(?

Answer 1

Zac, you are only 14 bud.
You have your whole life ahead of you and this could just a thing you are going thru rightnow, but you know what being gay aint so bad, trust me on that one

Answer 2

The gay lifestyle is hard and has many disadvantages , But you can't choose to be gay or not to be gay . Attraction to one sex or the other is something that you are born with . If we could choose no one would choose to be gay . The world as a whole is very diverse and has many advantages for you . If you are gay then seek out someone who can be a mentor to you and help you to transition in positive way , I don't mean sexually but someone who is older and has had time to live a little . They can shed a light on what is going to be a good experience or a bad one for you , help to show you how to live and avoid being used by the gay predators out there . Being gay can be hard , but it can also be a positive experience if you have the right mentor .

Answer 3

That's sad.

What you should do, then, is go through one of Exodus International's (exodus-international.org) ex-gay camps. This camp will have the totally unintended effect of making you realize that there are worse things than being gay.

In all seriousness, though, why don't you want to be gay? Sure, some people will have lesser opinions of you because of that. Dr. Seuss (an eminently wise man) once said "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." Basically, is someone thinks less of you because you're gay, they are quite simply not worth your time. And if your being gay isn't a big deal to someone, those are the ones you should be close to.

I love being gay. I have better sex, I'm a kinder person, I wear nicer clothes, I eat better food, and I do better in school. All of these I can at least demonstrate to be -related- (though not necessarily caused by) my being gay.

Being gay is fun. I hope you change your mind and enjoy it, because you certainly won't be able to change your orientation.

Answer 4

I totally relate. Life sucks enough as it is sometimes.

But hell there are a lot of idiots on these boards who write stupid things like "Then Don't" or "Ask God to cure you and he will" If only it was tha easy eh.

Maybe once you find someone that you really really love you will be more OK with the fact that you are gay. In the meantime perhaps what people said is a good idea. Find a mentor. Join a group for yung gay people who are struggling to come to terms with it. (scary eh! somebody might be there who knows you!) Just don't try to work it out alone.

Answer 5

Like I wanted to be gay too? Like I didn't ask plenty of times why this had to happen to me?

You need lots time and education. God made you the way he did because that is the way he wants you to be. You have to play your hand with the cards that you have, not the ones you wish you had.

Read widely. Go to gay sites, gay book stores, see gay films. See if you can find a gay lesbian community center and join a coming out group or something like that.

You are loved. It is ok. It will get better.

Answer 6

I've read you other most recent questions and realized that you really have difficulties accepting that you are gay. You need to accept who you are even if it's diffucult. Being gay is something you can't change--you're born like that. Most gay people say they've been gay all their life (but some acted straight before their coming out --because of the pressure-- consciously or unconsiously).

Answer 7

Well being gay really isn't a bad thing(in my opinion)but i am not gay tho but i have a lot of gay friends and they tell me every thing and not wanting to be gay is not 1 of them.U cant help what u r what i mean is that if u gay u r gay and u cant hide it really and if u do its going to come out sooner are later. so if i was u i wouldn't care and if u r scared of what people may say just say f**k them and go on wit yo business.

Answer 8

Then don't I'm sure you have been attracted to a woman once or twice.See being gay is a choice you either go a life full of pain and misery or choose to be straight.Just go out and find a woman you relay think is interesting.If you want some tips on how to meet good women give me an e-mail or Im me.

Answer 9

I am glad that you see the fact that being Gay is not something that is good for you. Many people are unable to see that they are hurting themselves by the things they do. Ask the Lord to help you in this struggle. The Lord loves you and will guide you as you fight this monster in your life. Never give up because the truth will set you free. Jesus will heal you from all that hurts you and gives you pain. Just pray to him and just believe. Go to those who believe in the Holy Spirit and they will pray for your healing. You are on the right road to healing, let no one tell you otherwise. Your question tells me you are on the way to being set free. Contact me if you wish and I will try to help.
The ultimate healer is the lord.

Paul Jaramillo

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Answer 10

You dont have to be gay. In fact, thier are more benefits not to be gay. For example, if you're not gay then you can meet a woman, and one day have a future together with children.

Answer 11

I assume you are asking this because you want some help of some sort. I honestly don't know what to tell you. I don't think anyone honestly wants to live that life, but you are who you are, you can't help that. Just like you can't help if you were born with green eyes or black hair...it's just one part of you who make you who you are. It's tough, though, and I have not even come out yet. I have come out to myself and to one friend, but that's about it. I am finally getting to a point in my life where I am happy with myself and comfortable with my sexuality. I'm not going to live an unhappy life just because there are a few ignorant people in society. But there is ignorance everywhere, so there's nothing you can do about it. Just minimize your risks and surround yourself with people who love you for who you are.