Why are husbands/wifes still not contented after marriage?

Question

Why some even went to the extend of having a child in an affair?

Is marriage a life cycle and merely just passing through motion?

Or because we are just humans ???

The thing that puzzles me is that the marriage is a HAPPY one!!!

Answer 1

We live in a society where we keep wanting more and more. Once we finally get what we want, it's good, but we get bored. This is where we start wanting even more. I know because my husband and I dated for 5 years and were married for 4 months when i found him cheating. It's an awful shame the way things are.

Answer 2

If you find your soul mate you will be content, but if you find after your married that he/she is not your soul mate, then it usually ends in divorce. I think it's a part of life, getting married. Most people don't like to be alone nor do they really like the dating scene. Some settle, when they should keep looking. Bringing a child into an affair is just wrong. I believe no one should have children unless they truly love each other and know that they are committed to make the relationship work. Too many children today are from divorced families and it's putting a tole on them. They have enough to deal with in this world we live in without having their parents splitting up as well.

Answer 3

Most people take marriage for granted. They go in with the belief that marriage is easy, but are surprised when they discover that it is hard work. Rather than communicating and working things out, some choose to make matters working by committing adultery. In these days and times people don't allow themselves the proper time in getting to know one another and build a friendship, which is how "real love" is developed. Instead they move full steam ahead into the physical aspects of the relationship, which only gives the illusion of love. Real love is what keeps a relationship together. It gives you that "staying power". It was make people stick things out for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer and in sickness or in health, until death do they part. It also gives them the ability to remain faithful and respect their spouse. I love and respect my wife with every fiber of my being and would never cheat on her. She is definitely a gift from God and a blessing in my life. I am so very thankful to have her in my life. Everyday she shows me the same level of love, trust and respect as well. Never in my life have I been as happy as I am now. Marriage is much more than merely a passing motion. If people put sex on the back burner of their relationships and allow themselves the opportunity to build a friendship and truly fall in love, they will come to realize how wonderful marriage really is. Peace and God bless.

Answer 4

We don't use the same motives when we are dating.
My wife and I were head over heels during our dating. We would find ways to talk or meet each other. Now that we live with each other in marriage, the circumstances changed. Now there are times we want to GET AWAY from each other. It is neccessary for a healthy relationship.
It seems that the thrill is over when the catch has been made. We don't have the same fervor when we dated. We now have kids, they take quite of bit of attention that was originally meant for each other, work, bills, finances, even our friends have changed. It has become cumbersome to find time for each other until the kids get older.

I believe what most miss is the spark that brought them together. If people know when to "flip that switch," marriage can get easier. You just can't do as much as you used to. Quantity time becomes quality time. When that is established, you relish the time together evermore.

Answer 5

That is easy, after two marriages I can tell you that they haven't taken the time to be friends and committ themselves to their partner. In essence that will only help my partner, where ever she is because she will get a man that is a one woman man that will never cheat and will do anything she needs to support her in life and all she has to do is the same back. The luv that comes from that will be so true that it can never be replaced.
Too bad the ex's did not see that. But one of these days a woman that has that need will see me and the sparks will be seen all over the country. It will make the 4th of July look like childs play and give new meaning to the sparks over Hiroshima.

Answer 6

Open communication is the key. If couples would talk before they hit the sheet's,and again,when the moment is over,life would be complete. Many couples bring a child into a relationship hopping it will"fix"thing's. It rarely work's.They some time's think an affair on the sly will fix their needs,again,this never work's.Couples tend to jump to fast now day's. Now day's they just move in with each other. Dating is fastly becoming obsolete.

Answer 7

It depends on the situation, a lot has to do with women who work, which wasn't the case 40 or so years ago. Times have changed and so have family values. There could be a variety of reason's but mainly divorce or contentment is not a big factor as it used to be.

Answer 8

now you know that some people get married and they are not ready for a commitment and they get other s involved in their life and sometimes they make mistakes and the person they are cheating on their mate with some how gets pregnant and all of that could have been avoiled if they had just took out the time to see if marriage would work for them I've been married to my man for eight-teen years and we have never had to experience any cheating from each other

Answer 9

Because they didn't make sure that they were happy BEFORE they got married. Marriage is supposed to be a celebration of what two people have achieved. Marriage is not supposed to be a solution.

I'm divorced, but when I remarry, I know that it will last forever because I intend to marry the woman I know will keep me excited for the rest of my life!

Answer 10

we are humans but thats no excuse for someone to have a child outside of marriage. that opens up a new can of woop *** oviously something is missing and instead of running to the next person that probably cant offer the person what they need should have got some help with the marriage and try to make it work.