what the heck?

Question

so me and this girl used to be really cool, than we stopped talking . . .well she stopped talkin to me, but i havent figured out why . . .but its been since october that we have spoken, i feel like an idiot and obsesed with her because i stil think about her, what the hell is wrong with me . . . .i dont think about her every minute of everyday, but some things remind me of her and i wish it was the way it used to be

you dont get it . . .she wont talk to me! understand now? i tried one to many times, and its not liek im calling he reveryday trygin to salvage what is left, so hwo can i be holding otn to thightly, im not holing on, i jsut think about her sometimes still, its not liek im lookign for reasons to think about her

Answer 1

that's not strange. it will take a while before you stop thinking about her all the time
the quickest way to get over a girl is with another girl. have fun! :)

Answer 2

I think I've figured this kind of thing out over the years. It takes a while....but we feel things in our heart sometimes - we want those memories to come back to life but the reality is --- they can't. We are more mourning the "situation" than we are the actual person. Not to take anything away from her but life has got to go on. You will lose people in your life and there will be those who will stay IN your life. You have good memories == hang onto them. That isn't a bad thing but it's probably just not meant to be. You will connect again sometime -- may take a while but that's ok. I'm in my 40s and recently contacted quite a few old friends (including my first real love and we email off and on every so often) --- it's truly a fun experience!! You are just missing the "time shared." You'll have plenty of those happy times ahead of you. Trust me on this. Smile when you remember her -- that's ok.

Answer 3

I see there wasnt a closure to this relationship. Although it may be very difficult to do.. it might be your best interest to find her and talk to her .. face to face.. you can then.. just ask.. what happened? It will at least give you some type of answer.. and some type of ending... so that you can move on with your life.. Even though you still think of her often.. with the relationship not really ending per se.. you still have it in the back of your mind that she will come back.. right? I really think if you talk to her face to face.. it will be good for you in the long run.. Good Luck.

Answer 4

This kind of "past dwelling" can only lead to more heartache and stalking... so do your best to let her go and move on. Understand that she does not feel the same way about you and while you may still be pining over her, she has moved on. Take the hint and follow suit... there are other "fish in the sea".

Answer 5

you still have unresolved feelings for her so its hard to move on because you don't know exactly what happened. If you want you can ask her what went wrong, maybe that will help you get on. Maybe she didnt feel the exact same way you did, but don't take it personally. It happens. Sometimes we have to get hurt in order to appreciate a real worthwhile relationship. I wish you only but the best of luck.

Answer 6

Its a part of love... when you really love someone they don't just vacate your brain when you are parted. Sadly, or not so sadly they take up residence there and live out the rest of their life. We never fully let go of the ones we truly love. After a while its not so bad and the memories are like candy kisses, small and sweet.

Answer 7

your a loser get over it....lol... just kidding. I would contact her once and leave her a message and if she don't return it then hey it was good while it lasted. You need to be able to just move on and get on to new things, if she just stopped talking to you, it could have been a myriad of things like, she found someone else or just got nervous of things going to fast. But do the above and see what happens brother.

Answer 8

if u still like her that much u need 2 get the courage 2 call her again no matter how embarrassed u may feel! u never know she may feel the same way bout u! mayb just neither of u have the courage 2 confront eachother!

Answer 9

you're not an idiot, your just growing. People tend to grow apart when they hit diffrent milestones in their lives. Try to talk to her and figure it out. What have you got to lose? Hey, maybe it's for the better. Make new friends, go see who and what is out there! Enjoy life=)

Answer 10

you are experiencing the common symptoms of a break up. after a break up , the mind cant stop thinking about the past. you cannot ever forget her but you can forgive her. forgive her and move on. all your life you will remain rememberring her as you love her.move on.