A couple of hours ago, my girlfriend and her family had got a call from a Toronto doctor telling them to get down there right away. My girlfriend's Aunt has Lupus really bad. She has been in and out of the hospital for the past year. I was unaware of everything, as I am at work. It obviously is bad, if the doctor tells the family to go to the hospital.
I am worried that my girlfriend's Aunt is dying.
How do I show that I am there for her? If my girlfriend's Aunt does die, what am I suppose to do/say?
Any answers will be greatly appreciated! Thank you!
2006-07-28 14:18:08 · 7 answers · asked by loudy_foudy 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Grief is always difficult, whether it's a parent, partner or pet. Stay close without being smothering--unless she wants it. It's difficult but try to read her emotions. Yes, I agree with the first answerer. resist the urge to say the usual platitudes of it being God's plan or she's in a better place now. Junk and bunk. Hold hands, let her cry, just be there. Do things at her/your place so she doesn't have anything extra to worry about--cook, clean, chores, etc. My partner has Lupus as well, though thankfully not the most severe kind but I watch her struggle with pain, loss of memory, fatigue and clumsiness. Good luck.
2006-07-29 19:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hold her,let her cry i your arms,If you say anything make it I'm sorry your aunt is sick, then be quiet.Let her do the talking,you listen.Go to the hospital with her,if they are a praying family,pray with them,as you hold her hand.Stay near her unless she wants to be alone,tell her that you are there for her no matter what happens.Be nice,at times like that people can be very sensitive to almost any comment that is made.Be nice.Give her a hug because you feel her pain.Don't try to come up with something to say that you think will make her feel better,she will feel better but she needs to go though her grief.Ask her how can you help out,she or her parents will let you know.Being there for her is just that.Being there,right there.Anything they need you to do,do it.
2006-07-28 21:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let her know that you will be there for her, and just make small guestures to show you care such as a hug, kiss, or take her out to enjoy a bit. If and when her aunt dies just show your support using your words and physical affection. Also, you should talk to her about her aunt this will show your girlfriend that you care about what is going on.
2006-07-28 22:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if you can go to the hospital with her. are you able to?
take care of everything that you can. she will be grieving and in shock, so it helps if someone is there to do the little things... make her some food, answer the phone, drive her over there. listen to anything she has to say. being there is literally "being there"... don't worry about saying the right thing. she just needs you to be there.
2006-07-28 21:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by thirty-one characters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure you are a shoulder to cry on for her. When she gets home, she will be very upset and need to talk to someone. be the biggest ear you can be and help her talk her feelings out. In the meantime, call her aand see how things are and if she needs you to bring her anything
2006-07-28 23:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there, let her cry on your shoulder. Listen to her. Don't say anything like "God (or whom ever you believe in) has a plan." It doesn't help. It just makes people bitter. Trust me. Good luck
2006-07-28 21:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mithrandir_black 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure that she KNOWS you are there for her. The rest is up to her. Best wishes to you and yours. :)
2006-07-29 00:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by Gynolotrimena Lubriderma-Smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋