no contact for 2 years
2006-07-28 14:10:06 · 12 answers · asked by bubaloiie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i can feel that pain. being the sister of a crack addict, it is hard to know how to handle these situations. you must, above all else, take care of you. maybe you can offer to go to dinner occasionally or invite him over for a football game, but if he is homeless, you have to remember he made the choices he made and got where he is and ONLY he can change the circumstances of his life. all you can do is offer support and love. and sometimes they feel rejected b/c you don't offer to do more but again that is their choice, as long as you are not mean in offering you help, then you have done all you can. the rest is up to him and his higher power.
lifting you on eagle's wings,
lily
2006-07-28 14:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no if he could do with out you for two years why come around now. You could help him but you just might be enabling him. i have a brother like that and I have come to the conclusion that my kindness is being misused and I am not really helping him at all. Perhaps if he and your brother truely hit bottom they will want to do what is needed to change their lives, Then we can help them until them I do not think you were wrong.
2006-07-28 14:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by digimutt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should find out how he is doing or where he is...but it wasn't wrong to turn him away. sometimes you can't help people until they help themselves first. he needs to admit there is a problem, take the first few steps by himself, then i think it would be ok for you to help him out after that.
2006-07-28 14:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by kogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the guy, the history, etc...if you feel it was what you needed to do then fine...you haven't related enough about the situation or his past history and y'alls relationship for anyone to give much input...
2006-07-28 14:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont try to find right and wrong. what is done cannot be undone. try to find your brother and help him by taking him to AA.help him with money, love and support. after all, family comes first.
2006-07-28 14:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe you should try and get him some help. what is the reason for the lack of contact?
2006-07-28 14:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by ::Hannah:: 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've heard the saying " I'm not my brothers keeper"
Well after all he is your brother.
" He hain't heavy he's my brother."
Maybe you should re think it and reach out to him...But that is intirely up to you. ... Good luck.
2006-07-28 14:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by ole_lady_93 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, otherwise you would be enabling his decline.
Help him when he's sober and throw him out if he starts drinking again. Harsh but that's why it's called "tough love".
2006-07-28 14:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by Andy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to find out because he might change if you help him out. You can say that you can live with me if you don't drink.
2006-07-28 14:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be ashamed of yourself.
2006-07-28 14:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋