Since most marriages fail and supporting a child alone?

Question

and working is impossible why do women set themselves up for failure by getting married young and having babies right away.
There is numerous ways of protecting yourselve from pregnancy
Yet, they scream what am I going to do I have 4 kids.
Well whose fault is that?

wrote this for people who hasn't done it yet tell them like it is

I am in the foster care system with many others because our mothers couldn't make it when our dads left. We are the abandone children. If I sound harsh maybe because life can be cruel even at and early age. Walk out on your children. they learn fast

scarey to be a single mon, try being on your own at 10

Answer 1

You are strong,and I know you will do everything in your power not to repeat your past. If your are feeling overwhelmed try finding a support group. Because this is what it sounds like to me. I too have been a single mother once, but I put it in my mind to get out there, and take care of business. I know you want time to your self sometimes. Maybe find a baby sitter once a month and dedicate that time to yourself. I know you can put money on the side for that. Try just saving any spare change, and this is something you will look forward to when the time comes. Try finding after school programs, and programs for the summer that will give you some free time. Everything Helps! Right now you are frustrated and thinking that life dished you a f@@@@@ up hand, but you will bounce back. Then you too someday will be sharing your story to young mothers who are where you are today. Good Luck Boo If you ever need a friend you can always e-mail me at [e-mail]. When you feel like you want to pull your hair out send me an e-mail I will be happy to respond.

Answer 2

I'm sure that most people (if not all) do not go into a marriage thinking about it ending in divorce. That is probably the farthest thing from their minds. Whose fault is it that the marriage doesn't work? Not always an easy answer, and in some cases, it really is not anyone's fault. People change and sometimes grow in different directions. If one of them was having affairs or was abusive... then you can't blame the other for leaving... but... why is it the woman's fault that they had children.... It can be scary to suddenly become the sole caregiver for your children. A lot of these women were "taken care of" financially by their husbands, and it was the wive's job to raise the children. If all of a sudden they are the only adult and are having to go out and get a job and try to raise children at the same time.... I can definitely understand the panic/stress that this causes. A lot of women do not want to get welfare or assistance... they have pride.

I am speaking from experience. I am a single working mother. I guess my question to you is.... what experience do you have with being a single parent?? Your comments seem awful harsh. And it is both adult's responsibility for birth control... not just the womans....Try walking a mile in the single mom's shoes before you condemn us all.

Answer 3

If he’s always worked away from home and always come home disinterested in you (sorry to put it so harshly, but that’s how I read it), then why would you expect something different now? I get the sense this is the case because you said you’ve had to push him to support you in the past. Yes, ideally we’d love our partners to fall all over themselves to take care of us, but we realistically can’t expect the husbands we had before getting pregnant to suddenly change. This is the part where you decide if you want to stay with the person you know he is or if you think you’d be better off without him. Honestly, I’d be pissed if my spouse *told* me we were moving. It would be one thing if he started a discussion on the topic so that we could choose what’s best for us, but it’s a whole other ballgame when I’m told what to do. I’m not saying your husband is a saint, but this is a big enough decision that you should have discussed it with him rather than deciding for the two of you.

Answer 4

You can't control what the man does. Here you are at home with screaming kids, while he's out at the bar or out with another woman somewhere. Everything changes after you have that first baby. Alot of time goes into taking care of the kids, and he's out doing his own thing. Then you are stuck. That's the point when you realize, "OMG, what did I do?" Or he hits you one night in front of the kids, and you know you have to get out. That's usually the kind of stuff that happens, the man gives you no choice.

Answer 5

i was asingle mom at 14 yes its hard but there is help and support out there if u want it i never gave my son up he is the joy of my life but u right why do people choose to have kids alone i didn't choose it but i would never give him up it is hard though bjut for the record my son is verry well took care of and happy i'm sorry for your struggle but it will make u stronger

Answer 6

Many men & women are uneducated so they react on impulse and don't make wise decisions. We live in a world were the devil is looking to devour anyone he can.

Answer 7

It is the fault of the PARENTS that didnt take time to raise their children!!!

Answer 8

Well I'm supporting my daughter alone in spite of court-ordered child support that I never see, so.............