6 mth after we split from a 8 year 3kids relationship, this guy who yes it is her friend is still getting her 100% undivided attention and now she trying to joke with me about it? this guy is only someone on the internet and at the time yes we did need to breakup but belive me he loved every minute of it and as a man i know he tricked her into thinking he only done it as her friend, she is still with him all the time online and everytime i get close to her again i am 100% certain he telling her to stay away, but i have sorted alot of things out, he does not know me in real life and we have 8 years and 3 kids behind us, should i still be mad she is with this guy online all the time, or just let it be and joke about it?
it hurts like a mother to be honest and reason -
no it isnt cos i dont want her to have friends, its just he getting a side of her that i want. he is 20yrs old we are late 20's he is in america we are in uk, he is this online god who is "so mature for his age"
2006-07-28 13:51:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
is there anything in this like i think there is going to be or am i just being paranoid and controlling?
2006-07-28 13:52:09 · update #1
ya what>? i feel bad or there is going to be something going on?
2006-07-28 13:55:31 · update #2
Honestly it is no joke she is still talking to him. You said you two need to break up but it seems you still care and would love to work it out, if that is true then why aren't you fighting for this lady? Are you two married or just in a relationship? Maybe she is looking for something you haven't gave her. You need to think about what you want out of life and if she is part of that life you see then fight for her back. Life is to short to be unhappy and think about what should have been, don't give up until you see it is useless.
2006-07-28 14:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
um well - your question answers itself - of course there is something going on but no-one who intervenes will be seen as a 'friend' if you know what I mean. I've had personal experience with this kinda guy and he's evil - if you are questioning his intentions or methods get in touch with your internet provider - most groups have managers and standards - do all that you can - your kids are at risk even if you felt nothing for her, the children should be safe. Take care at least you have the safety of distance between them but take it from a woman hurt, that really means nothing - why does he need a British woman?? Are the locals to him so stupid?? I think not!
2006-07-28 20:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think there is a problem with it-but if ur uncomfortable with the where the relationship is goin-why not get into chatttin with this guy yourself. Or just tell her how you feel bout the whole thing-with 3 kids and a hubby don't know how she cud find time to chat on here long enough to get to know anyone!
I have two kids and no hubby and it's a challenge for me to be on here-but with the time zone difference maybe not! think u should put ur foot down.
2006-08-01 07:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Rogue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a problem whether she sees it or not because it bothers you. In a relationship sometimes we may not understand your feelings but if we want a great relationship you need to do whats best for the relationship. If shes spending all this time on-line with another man that's cheating. Its cheating you out of the time she should be spending with you
2006-07-28 13:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by mommasan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she ever talk about going to meet this guy? if so i would flat out put your foot down about it. tell her that it makes you uncomfortable talking to him about YOUR relationship and that if she wants friends she needs to get a job and find some girls to be friends with. even a neighbor would be better then him. then i would suggest getting the internet shut off for a while. if none of this works try counceling too and if that doesnt work i would leave her. she has obviously chosen him over you.
good luck to you.
2006-07-28 13:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to have a relationship with this women then she needs to stop with this on line guy. It is causing problems in your relationship so she needs to make a choice you or him
Signed an American women
2006-07-28 13:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is your wife , u need to just tell her that she needs to stop talkng to this guy on here or u are leaving
2006-07-28 14:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be fine unless she asks for a trip to the u.s.
2006-07-28 13:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by chereeder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya
2006-07-28 13:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by enjoylife! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her she doesn't deserve u and yes u should be worried
2006-07-28 14:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by heather f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋