would it be wrong?

Question

do y'all thing it would be wrong for me to cheat on my wife when she has cheated on me in the past an i think she might be again even thought i have no proof that she is just supect that she is. need real help on this because i still love her very much

thanks for the addvice and your right 2 wrongs don't make it right.

Answer 1

Wrong? Well, are you the type to cheat or be dishonest? If you are then you already know what you want to do. But, if you are not a person who likes to hide secrets, play silly games, or be dishonest, then put your cards on the table, you can do it with a a good Marriage Counselor, or just face-to-face, but let your wife know her unfaithfulness IS A BIG ISSUE that you need her to get some HELP for. Whether you cheat or not, the problem of why she's a cheater and what you both need to do to strengthen your love for each is not going to be solved without HONEST, heartfelt communication From HER and YOU together and yes it NOT easy to do that. You have every right not respect her after what she did, but respect yourself enough to say "Hey, I deserve better." Don't stoop to her level, get some counseling or help and do some soul-searching. She may love you, but if she does Love you then the issue IS NOT the CHEATING, it's much bigger. IF however, she DOES have much love left in her heart, then she's a probably going to cheat again because of her selfishness and that means cheating IS the issue.

You are in pain right now, you can do a lot of things to make it go away for a little while but remember the only way to make it fade forever is to get some options that will give you Control over your OWN future. Sounds like she needs individual counseling and all but take out the time to look out for YOU (#1) right now, and take good care of yourself, because this situation could get worse before it gets better unless she decides to join you in making it Work.

Answer 2

If you cheat on her, it's not going to help anything, it will just make matters worse. Plus you will never forgive yourself if you do. You only want revenge and revenge is not sweet. If you think she is cheating again, confront her. If she is, then maybe it's best you end your marriage. Unless you and her both get counseling to find out what is wrong in the marriage. You definitely have problems if she has cheated and "may" be cheating again. It's your call, but if you cheat, you have to live with the guilt and believe me, it's rough.

Answer 3

My mom always said two wrongs don't make a right. don't sink to her level because in the end you need to look at what kind of man you are and You don't want it to be a cheater. You may love her but that is not all it takes to make a relationship work. You should really think about what you want because if you really love her like you say you do you wouldn't think about cheating. Maybe your just used to her and don't want to be alone.

Answer 4

Does 2 wrongs make a right? No it doesn't so if you can't trust her then you two need to be working on your marriage instead of wondering whether you should cheat. No one deserves to be cheated on and if she chooses that then you have to make a decision if your happy with that or not. Only you know what is in your heart.

Answer 5

Marriage without trust is a waste of time. Cheating will never heal the pain you are suffering. Instead of healing your marriage, it will destroy whatever is left of the love you too had in the beginning.

You need to deal with these issues. The two of you. You love her and you want to stay with her, then your actions should encourage the two of you to stay together. Revenge serves to separate people, getting even is just the same thing. Get counseling if you want to save your marriage.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Quit playing tit for tat games and either man up and leave her or stay there and deal. Cheating is wrong, even if she did it to you. No matter how much you love someone, letting them hurt you is not healthy. Sinking to their level is hurting yourself. If you two are doing this in front of children, you're hurting them.

PS: Why would you take someone who has cheated on you back?! That's not only disrespectful, but dangerous, even if they used a condom. Like she just played russian roulette with your life without telling you.

Answer 7

If you cheat, then she will have reason to resent you, and it doesn't reverse or fix what has already happened. It might be fun in the short term to cheat, but you might find that it does not fix anything. If you still love her, maybe try going to counseling, if that doesn't work out, then maybe reevaluation of your relationship will be necessary. You deserve to be loved, respected and treated with care.

Answer 8

just because she cheats does not make it right for you to cheat on her. You don't want to put yourself on her level and become that low, and two wrongs don't make a right. Show that you are the bigger person, and stand up for yourself, and don't let her get by with it... Cheating is wrong all together....

Answer 9

GOD + Counseling + Communication = A Healthy Marriage

Answer 10

ok, this is it u already forgive her before so why cheate on because of a ramour has it, ask her and fish around if it true, if is true still don't cheat on her until after the devoce is final.