Okay ; so there is this guy i`ve known for like eight almost nine years and we`ve been like the bestest of friends for years now . Well all of a sudden he comes out with that i`m his "first love" which I was never aware of this before . I knew that he had previous feelings for me and I had previous feelings for him too , but I`m too caught up in the friendship to think of anything more than that. Well anyways ... he wants to be with me, but I`m not quite sure if I want to be with him because I`m afraid of the risk of losing out on a good friendship with somebody. What do you guys think I should do? And ; if you think I should remain friends with him. What is a good way to let him know that without making the situation sound worse?
I really need help you guys . I hope to get lots of answers, so I can know what to do . Thanks ; to those of you who are willing to help me .
2006-07-28 13:29:07 · 11 answers · asked by s0o_honest 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a pretty delicate situation, and I took a lot of time just to think of an answer for you. It's hard, because he pretty much spilled his heart out to you and you don't want to ruin the friendship, yet you are reminded of your previous feelings for him. You seem like you are in between your decision right now. I can't tell you what to decide here, but the first thing you need to do is sort out what your heart and your mind is telling you. Do you see a romantic future with him? Or are you comfortable in just being friends with him? Secondly, once you are sure how you feel about the situation, talk to him. Being friends with him for almost nine years, it should be easy to discuss what you are thinking and feeling. Whatever you decide, he should be understanding in the end result. Good luck!
2006-07-28 13:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and it is working for me up to this day
I'm happily engaged with a man who was my best bud
we took the leap and hoped for the best
i think that when your friends first there is more stability in the relationship because each partner knows the other and there is no trying to perceive that your someone else and then later on in the relationship you let your true colors out of the sock
you should give him the chance of doubt
and make it clear that don't matter what happens that you will always be friends
and if it don't work out give your selves some space to come back to terms for just settling to be friends
make sure that he is OK with the situation before you jump the hoop
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-28 13:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 21:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both have the same feelings your friendship should be safe. Because friends can become the best boyfriend you could have. They know you for who you are and understand you sometimes better than you know yourself. And if your friendship is that strong it should last through anything. So if I were you I'd go for it. Good Luck.
2006-07-28 13:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just how you feel!!!!!!!!!! I was in the same spot as you and I took the chance and couldn't be happier!! Ovesiosly if you two were friends forever! then it might work!!! I encourge you but this is your decsion. If you two break up then just make sure after to let him know that you still want to be friends. Keep me updated!!!! My e-mail is Hot_Lazy_Chick444@yahoo.com Good Luck!!
2006-07-28 13:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get with him. GIve him a chance just tell him that you should still be friends if for some reason it doesn't work out
2006-07-28 13:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people always look for love from strangers rather than friends. Isn't the ideal realtionship one where your love is also your best friend?
2006-07-28 13:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should just tell him that if u be with him and it doesn't work that u don't want to lose a great friend when u break up.
2006-07-28 14:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry .......(practicly the same thing happened 2 me) but he wus pretty kool about it...just say...
weve been friends for years now and i really like u but im not sure ir i like u for more than a friend....
=) it workd for me
n i hope itl work for you 2
regards
danielacpr
2006-07-28 13:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by danielacpr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him your not ready for a relationship with him right now tell him you would rather just be friends
2006-07-28 13:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by Lyney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋