Looks like that b**** of an ex my significant other will probably win back-child support and more for future. She told him 3 years ago she no longer wanted it so we went on with our lives. We've both been living paycheck to paycheck. She is about to marry a millionaire and owns 2 businesses of her own ( a bar and a restaurant) and makes tons of money. So the way the law works is he'll have to start paying again. Any ideas how to come up with lots of extra money per month so we can deal with this? He already works 44 + hours per week and he's not a young man (49). I think it's so unfair for her to change her mind but looks like we've got to deal with it. My 15-year old daughter will be the one most to suffer the cut-backs while his 15 and 16-year olds continue to live the life of luxury. Please NO criticism, just good ideas.
2006-07-28 13:06:53 · 14 answers · asked by Dellajoy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Geez some people are so negative...Hello, I'm asking for suggestions to get extra money; not a lecture on him paying support. Do people even read the additional details. His children are NOT doing without anything and in no way are hurting and neither is the mother of his kids. We are the ones who will be hurting. We already don't take vacations or have any luxuries like most people. I drive a '84 Toyota. His ex drives a Cadillac and goes on lots of exotic vacations. All I want to know is how to get an extra $400/month. Stop being so critical of me or my b/f. She said she didn't want the support before we even moved in together. I just want to figure a way for it to work out now AND keep my daughter happy with the little extras we've been able to have such as internet. She doesn't ask for much but she wants to eat AND have internet. Is that so much to ask for. I'm tired of those of you who don't care about my daughter, just his spoiled rich kids.
2006-07-28 13:30:15 · update #1
First of all did you ask your landlord for permission first? Second thing bad idea! Because he or she knows what the potential of making extra money can be. Did you have a person in mind? Try finding someone you and your husband can trust. Then I would still rent it out, and if the landlord comes to inspect say that it's a family member in town. I am not trying to be dirty, but you have to do what you have to do! I am more than sure that the landlord have to inform you if any inspections that has to be done. Just ask the person to remove any obvious things that indicates someone else is living there, and store them else where in the house until the inspection is done. I did the very same thing that you are speaking of! When inspection time came I just removed any personal items, and made it look like a guest room. Just make sure whom ever you decide to let rent the space is on the same terms as you are. Then again if the person just so happens to be there when the landlord comes who is the landlord to say whether they are visiting or not. Because like I said my brother and nephew stayed with me for five months and my landlord never knew it. Because the landlord always mailed me a date, and I simply told him not to be there at the time of the inspection. Hope this helps if not Good luck. Things will work out somehow.
2006-07-28 13:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by bredambrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can give up his parental rights. Let the other man adopt his children. You guys obviously knew this may happen if you didn't get court papers when she agreed to not take child support.
If your husband doesn't want to give up his rights, take it to court. Child Support is not only based on the father's income, but also on the mother's. If she didn't report all of her new income in a timely manner, then you guys may be responsible for allot less. If the child support was figured while she was unemployed, it was figured as if she had a job making minimum wage.This is most likely the only way to get out of paying.
If you need extra money, you or your daughter could get a job. Most states let 14-15 yr olds work. waitressing is a good job, and it pays the most money for young people. This could also teach your daughter some responsibility if she has to save for cloths and a car. Let the other woman and kids go on about their lives. She is just doing this for the hurt.
Hope this may help.
2006-07-28 13:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by bme79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he HAS to pay child support to his children regardless of what his ex says...It's the childrens money, not hers. How about YOU join the reserves, babysit, have your husband get a second job. 49 is NOT old!!!! My dad is 61 worked 6 days a week for 40 years, and now that he's retired he umpires full time...in Texas!! It's hot and humid but he does what a man has to do. Perhaps your husband can take a page from his book. Maybe he should look into becoming an umpire, or a referee it's not difficult and games are usually on the weekend or after the school day is over. Don't ever act so indignant about his children's right to financial support...it's shows lack of character.
2006-07-28 13:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U don't want criticism than why did u post ur business.. No matter how there living w/the mom and new husband to be that's not ur business because no matter what he still has a financial responsibility to his children... That's what happens when u date a man w/children, because along comes problems and then us as women make their problem our problem and it's not.. ur job is to worry about ur children not his especially if urs will suffer..
I would suggest having a garage sale, take on a part-time for the days he doesn't work, cut back on some of lifes luxuries or lower the payment plans on the cell phone, cable, internet etc..
Have him re-evaluate what he makes and what he spends...
good luck w/that one
2006-07-28 13:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, no criticism...I feel your pain, dear one. Here in Texas child support is ordered for about 28% of your sig's pay and they could get 28% of half of your pay....now THAT bites, so I am hopping you don't live here. Hopefully the child support order will only last until the children are 18.
Is there ANY possible way your husband could have a meeting with his x and swallow any pride he may have left and ask her to reconsider, sharing his family life issues with her, but without accusing and dragging up worthless history?
I pray for you all.
2006-07-28 13:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on the hire - in case you all signed the hire and the hire is for a month-to-month volume, then technically there is no spare room on account which you all signed as much as hire the homestead, no longer a room. on the different hand, in case you all rented rooms (separate rentals), then no he can't, yet this opens up an entire separate difficulty as to if or no longer the hire for that final room has expired (if no longer, whomever exchange into residing in that room could shop paying hire till he room is filled).
2016-11-03 05:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the landlord your niece or nephew is moving in, and have the boarder continue the charade.
And get married if you're going to live together at your age.
2006-07-28 13:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't be to worried about renting out the room I would go back to court ,see what the judge has to say about the back child support. good luck and god bless you
2006-07-28 13:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by basque girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did not sign any document stating to forfeit the child support? If so hold her to it. Difficult to answer.
2006-07-28 13:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by karlhm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU HAVE A JOB LIKE AT A HOSPITAL THE FRIST TIME YOU WORK THERE YOU WILL GET $6,000
2006-07-28 13:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by owensgabriele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋