What proved fatal to your friendship?

Question

Without an explanation, what killed your friendship with someone?

Example: Friend was cheap
Friend couldn't keep secrets, etc.

Were you glad the friendship was over?

Answer 1

Selfishness on her part, when i find myself giving far more than I'm receiving then it's time to find a new friend who's equally sharing.

Answer 2

For the first 14 years of my life, my best friend and I were inseperable. But then her parents sent her to a catholic school and I stayed in public school. She met new friends and so did I. She sort of became a jock at her high school playing mainly basketball and volleyball. She was always a very friendly and outgoing girl, but (and I hate to say this, but) a little nerdy looking. Anytime a boy would ask her out, I would not hear back from her for sometimes months! I, on the other, always had boys interested and was very much part of the social scene. (Of course, I wish I could go back then to when I had the looks. Oh, aging sucks!) Anyway, I did my share of drinking and smoking back in those days and my friend did not, at all. Eventually, we were both went off to college and I commuted to a local University whereas she went to a different University that was 2 1/2 hours away. I used to write her letters and send her cards on special occassions (holidays and birthdays). She would respond sometimes, but eventually I gave up trying to keep in touch because I thought I was making more of the effort than her. So about 10 years passed since then, and I had a very important reason to contact her... I was engaged. A lot of childhood dreams develop in the first 14 years of your life and we had shared a lot of them. We had talked about being each other's bridesmaid one day. So, I finally got her new number from her mother and called her up. We talked for about 3 hours that night, laughing and crying about so many memories. And, of course, she agreed to be my bridesmaid and stood up in my wedding. Unfortunately, about 2 weeks after my wedding, she was killed in a car accident by a drunk driver. I was absolutely devastated! It's been 2 years since then and I think about her almost every day. I wish something else had killed our friendship, other than life and death. I would give anything for that. One of the last things we said to each other at my wedding was how we have never had another friend like each other. I really miss my friend. LOL.

Answer 3

Dishonety - especially about the stuff that's hard to be totally honest about. The phrase "tell the hard truths first" is pretty much a good one to live by, especially in any type of relationship.

Am I glad the friendship is over? Well, I'm glad I ended it because it gave me the mental space to reframe my thoughts about the person. That said, I miss the person and think about them almost daily.

Answer 4

My friend was never happy for me and would rather take the p!ss than say congratulations. I'm very glad the friendship is over as he has gone down hill and now has no friends and i didnt want to end up like him

Answer 5

My former best friend was a druggie and she only wanted her life to be jobless, filled with drugs and a deadbeat boyfriend that never respected her. She used to be a very sweet, intellectual person before she turned for the worse. And when I tried to help her get out of those situations, she told me "You're not my mommy and I'll do what I want." Needless to say, the friendship died pretty quickly after that. Goes to show you, you can't help people who don't want to be helped.

Answer 6

Wasnt there when I really needed her during life-threatening illness. After I got well the next year, she came back saying she didnt contact me because she couldnt handle my looking sick and now wanted to go back to how we were - told her to hit the road, left her standing there crying. Very glad! Dont need a fair weather friend.

Answer 7

My best friend in primary school was a thief, a compulsive liar, and a bit of a whore. Our lives took different paths when she got pregnant at the age of fourteen and she dropped out of school.

My first serious relationship ended when he became insecure about one of my male friends. However, I do still see him occasionally, and we talk civilly.

Answer 8

The only thing she would talk about was sex sex men men, then I found later that she was trying to get with my boyfriend when we were having problems..Hopefully oneday God will send me someone who will be a true friend....I need that now more than ever!

Answer 9

My friend was a guy, he asked me out a lot in the end. I was sad it was over, I had known him for 3 years, but it was too weird.

Answer 10

She abused my friendship by showing up at my place unannounced with her little girl for me to babysit while she went garage sale shopping.