especially with homophobic parents?.... who pretend said person hasn't said anything? or that its a phase? .. or with unaccepting friends?.. or would it be easier to just say... 'i'm straight'.. especially when you work with kids? and leaders.. dissapprove.. and tell said person to deny rumours..
2006-07-28 12:50:55 · 9 answers · asked by Ails90 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i didn't tell the people that i worked with about me being gay.. it got around.. as one of the kids is my friends younger sibling... also... its volunteer work ... as i'm only 16... but they still didn't take it well.. in any situation.. but my close friends..
2006-07-28 13:02:37 · update #1
Anthropology tells us that everyone is bisexual. Hence, bisexual is the most normal state. Everything else is about choice.
However, I wonder why your sex life is your parents or anyone else's business? Except, of course, if you were married or otherwise committed it would be that of your spouse (that is if you were involved with someone else!).
I mean, I know why you feel that you should "come out". Everyone is taught to tell the world about their love life, these days.
Certainly, there are places like Alberta Canada that are very rough on homosexuals. However, in south Mississippi in the old days before homosexuals wanted "rights", if two old men lived together or two old ladies, people would wonder if "they weren't a little funny". But, no one worried too much about this or bothered them. And, old ladies loved these men who were more feminine. North Mississippi was apparently less tolerant.
And, homosexuality wasn't about a bathhouse lifestyle except maybe in New Orleans.
And, of course, I haven't answered your question really. It's too late but in the future I say your sexual orientation is no one's business unless it directly affects them in some way! For instance, if you are married and want a lover of the opposite gender it is an issue for your spouse!
If you are bisexual your true love will in the end be a male or female. If the person is the same gender as you, you will be called homosexual. If the person is the opposite, then you will be called heterosexual.
2006-07-28 13:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by MURP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll answer your question with a question of my own. Why do people who are bisexual or gay have to "come out" to anyone? Who cares. What the hell makes you think you're so important that anyone gives a damn about your sexuallity? I know some people who are bi and you don't see them parading around going look at me I'm bi, I love the dick and the pussy!!! Straight people don't "come out" and niether should you. Just shut the hell up, do what you want and let the world move on. Although, public opinion will run you over like a steamroller if you work with kids and are found out to be anything but a straight christian.
2006-07-28 12:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lecrapface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not a good idea since they did not take the first part well. At least, with bi-sexuality, they can hold onto hope that you might "go straight." I know that's silly and not likely, but it's impossible to reason with homophobic people. Sorry things did not go well for you.
2006-07-28 12:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will always be those who "disapprove", but now at least you can be you. You will be happier for it rather than living a lie and never feeling fulfilled. And give them time. You just shook the foundations of what they thought they knew. You have to be strong enough to give them time to get adjusted. You didn't accept it immediately I'm sure.
2006-07-28 13:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by quikzip7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your life, you don't need to tell anyone except the people you want to have a relationship with. I definitely would not tell any one that you work with because you work with kids and there will be prejudice there.
2006-07-28 12:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be truthful to yourself and the people around you. If you are bi, then tell them you are bisexual if you want to come out to them. There are myths about bi people so it can be hard to "come out" as bisexual but being who you are is worth it. Your not a lesbian, you're not straight, you are bi.
Helpful link to HRC about coming out as bi:
http://www.hrc.org/Content/NavigationMenu/Coming_Out/Get_Informed4/Coming_Out_as_Bi/Coming_Out_as_Bisexual.htm
2006-07-29 11:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, don't worry about what people think or say. Like my Gran'ma Fannie used to say, "They talked about Jesus Christ, so **** what other folks say!" Don't deny who you are. Be it gay, bi, straight, or indifferent, just be you.
2006-07-28 13:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally!!!!
I think a BI-SEXUAL... is a GAY PERSON that can STOMACH sex with the opposite sex.
That's been my experience.
2006-07-28 12:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your life- you do whatever makes you comfortable. Remember, you really don't need to justify yourself to anybody. so choose life...
2006-07-28 13:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋