We were engaged but then decided she wasn't ready to commit. I asked her for the ring back but she said what was I going to do with it...She said she would pay me the money that I spent on them, it's the least she could do...
To me, it's not about the money, it's about I gave her my heart and my soul, and she didn't want that so why would she want to hang on to a ring that shouldn't mean anything to her?
2006-07-28 12:41:21 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The Bible says, "keep your heart safe for out of it flow the issues of life". This means be careful who you open your heart to because life issues can destroy it.
So. you opened your heart to a woman who for whatever reason was not ready for marriage, Before you get engaged to someone know who they are. Know them enough to know if you are compatible to them. You gave her the ring, with the understanding that you would soon be married. She is not woman enough to give it back due to the break up. She clearly has many issues. Be the bigger person and count it as a loss.
In life sometimes we lose, but be encouraged that you will be rewared when you do the right thing.
2006-07-28 12:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell her that you want the ring back. It belongs to her as long as she is engaged to you, but now that she broke it off she needs to give the ring back, and not being mean but it is not any of her business what you do with your ring. Why would she want to hold on to the ring? You got me here, I would think that it is a nice ring. It's hard to give up something when you get use to having it. I think that is the only reason why she is keeping it and nothing more. Don't worry you will find someone, I just don't think that this is the girl.
2006-07-28 19:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the ring was given as a gift like birthday,Christmas then you have no legal right to get it back,but if you gave her the ring as a promise of marriage (not on a holiday) then you do have the legal right to take her to court for the ring back,I do understand that it really isn't about the ring but about your heart being broke,so really what do you want to do drag out more heart ache or just try to move on with you life and make a clean break.
2006-07-28 19:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her for the ring back to get your money back you spent on it. She sounds heartless and materialistic if she wants to keep it! Did she not think that wearing it would have other women constantly asking her about the engagment?!? Obviously, she's not ready to commit on many levels.
2006-07-28 20:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by jess_offramp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know why she'd want to keep it. That's strange. Technically though, when you give a ring it is now hers and hers to do what she wants with it. Any decent person would give it or the $ value back. I'm sorry it didn't work out, but if she really wants the ring and will pay for it, why not let her.
2006-07-28 19:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her pay for it if she will. You cant take it back anyway and no other woman want an Xs ring. Also you dont need to be looking at it laying around. After she pays . Treat her as if she dosent exist. If she wont allow you to love her, treating her like any other stranger on the street is the quickest vway to get over her. No bad treatment , no name calling . Just totaly ignoring her existance . Good luck man
2006-07-28 19:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by us citizen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it... but she may think more of the ring than she did of you and your commitment to the relationship... It's not a fun thing being in love and being rejected for the very love you want to give and share... Take it as a lesson learned and move on... in a way it's good this happen before you were married...
2006-07-28 19:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring was a gift, unfortunately...
there is nothing much you can do, just be happy she is willing or offering to give you something in return..
These things always go wrong in court, if you were to pursue, you would end up broke with no ring...
Im sorry, and I feel bad for ya..
but its just how life goes sometimes
2006-07-28 19:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you really want it though - sitting around reminding you of it all - and you would never give it to another girl - that would be wrong. Depending on how long you have been together, I think if you recently gave it to her then yes she should give it back - if you have been engaged for a long time, 5 plus years, she should keep it and pay you for it.
2006-07-28 19:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is just scared of the commitment of the whole marriage thing. I guess the ring would be a memory of you to hang on to.
2006-07-28 20:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by concerned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋