Should they tell them that they are not allowed to because they are too young? Would that approach work? Should it make a difference if it is a young teen is a boy or a girl?
2006-07-28 12:30:25 · 10 answers · asked by Chris D 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
NO, just let them date
my mom doesnt let me date until i am 18 and there is stiill 4 yrs to go and things get worse! i can tell, so just let your kids to date or else... like me, a weirdo with a werido parents!
2006-07-28 13:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by v_o_v_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have very specific rules in place for exactly what kind of dating they can do. For example, they can only get together at each other's houses, and only if parents are present. Or they can go to a movie or the mall together, but specify a time limit. It shouldn't matter what sex the teen is, base what you want to do on the maturity level. The way the teen has behaved in the past will give you some clue as to whether he/she is mature enough to start dating.
2006-07-28 13:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is coming from a 14 year old herself-
My mom said she wouldnt let me date until i was 15... and i met this really nice boy and she knows him now and she knows his parents and techincally she doesnt see it as dating... we hang out. But theres things she doesnt know. I wont get into detail- but kids our age are very sneaky. And really, even if you set the rules, no matter how mature a teen is, theyll find a way to break those bounderies- believe me.
2006-07-28 13:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by kaelyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think parents should ban them from dating. It just makes them want to rebel against them. My parents wouldn't let me hang out with friends let alone dating. I got frustrated and did the exact opposite of what they said and went out with them.
I would say to talk to them about dating and setting some boundaries since 14-15 is young. Teens are very impressionable, they are that stage in life when they take everything in to find out who they are.
So if they want to date but you're not sure you want them to. Meet the boy/girl they want to go out with and have them do the first couple of dates at your house.
Boys are always treated differently than girls (especially in my family) but to be fair I think any of the boundaries parents set should apply to both.
2006-07-28 13:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet_Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres the deal, if you tell them they cant date, it will make them want to even more, and then possibly behind your back. your best bet is to tell them that you would prefer that they didnt. let them know that if they do you are always there for them to talk about things with. you should also let them know the dangers of date rape, peer pressure, and so on. let them know that the number one thing is that they always have respect for themselves and never put themselves in a position where they can be taken advantage of. also, dont let them go to their bf or gf house. im telling you now, even if they say there is a parent there that doesnt always mean that they are safe. tell them that if they want to spend time with their bf or gf they can do it at your house. this way you can supervise them and nothing can go on that you wouldnt allow. good luck
2006-07-28 13:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have a person they wish to date , let them bring them to your house for a movie and popcorn in your living room. This gives you control and you get to meet the person they want to date and spend time with them before the age when the dreaded car dates start.
It is really a good idea, if you really want to know who your kids are in their personality, invite their friends over and stick around just out of eyesight. Not snooping, just there.
I found out my son had no idea who he was wanting to run around with until I had them come over for a barbeque before school started one year. I was able to let him see the real genius of his friends was in the fact they could talk him out of his money rather easily and that is what they were after to start with. He was so peeoooed at the guys but he actually thanked me for showing him what was going on really.
2006-07-28 12:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's OK for them to date as long as they know that there are boundaries. And if you tell them no they might end up doing it behind your back. Long as they are responsible and you trust them then I wouldn't have a problem with it.
2006-07-28 12:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by yalonda w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never stop your kids from dating. That will just frustrate them.
Instead, communicate with them about dangers and risks, and if you haven't given them the sex talk, now is the time.
2006-07-28 12:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 13 when i stared to date but my mom wanted me out of the house so she could work
2006-07-30 03:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 16:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by barrecchia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋