do you beleive in abstinence until marriage? why or why not?

Question

i beleive in it, but i want to know if it's really worth waiting for.

Answer 1

I personally do, but I'm not religious.

I just think too many girls that are 16 and even younger are going around and sleeping around. And personally i think if your going around telling people about having sex, or bragging about it. Your not old enough to be having it in the first place, because you obviously have some growing up to do.

I plan on waiting, But i don't think it's necessary for everyone, if your in love with the person and your old enough. Then it's fine. As long as your commited.

Answer 2

I don't believe in abstinence until marriage.
I always told myself that I was going to wait being that I was taught to believe in the ideas of the Catholic Church. It's a long story but now I don't associate myself with any religion, all I have is the faith in God.
So let's say you do wait until you're married and finally it's your wedding night. You love this person ,you've been going out for years etc.You have sex, and feel nothing: no connection, no feelings for the person by doing this act of love. Would you stay with this person and keep your vows?
People think marriages will never go wrong, that nothing can touch them. But marriages don't always last forever. There is such thing as making a mistake.

I'm not saying to go off and have sex with everyone.
I think it's best to wait when you are emotionally ready for sex because it really is an act of love that comes with a lot of strings attached. Make sure you're with the right person and you've known/been with each other for a while.
Most people have regrets because they were with the wrong person, they rushed into it.
I think it's best to go with the relationship to see if he really is committed to you and loves you.
If you have all that, I don't think you can have regrets.

I've been in a committed relationship for 4 years and started having sex two years ago. I have no regrets because I love my boyfriend very much and he loves me as well. After we graduate from college (2 years) we plan to marry.

Answer 3

i do belive in abstinence until marriage and this is because i belive that in order to really find that person that truly loves you you dont need the sex. A person that is willling to be there for you and take kare of you without any condition is the type of guy that is worth it all. Sex changes relationship once it is in a relationship it matters if it stops being there so in some way sex becomes part of the relationship just to make it more interesting each time but you dont need sex to "keep on being interested in that person" is the person itself that makes you want to keep on going in the relationship not the fact that you both can make your bodies unite. SEx is important in a marriage but if a guy can be adorable ando so sacrifing for you in a non-sex relationship of course he is going to be the same way when you marry him because he will always feel the need to PLEase you in every way. SEX changes things and it is a sacred act and i think SEX should only be for those couples that really care for each other and LOVE each other. i am 18 and i am sure many of the girls will disagree with me and most guys but this i know for sure: the guy thats gonna be my man better sweat it off!!!.. and sacrifice most things then i will know hes not another of those jerks that just wants a **** and that he really is worth it but again that is my own personal opinion :)

Answer 4

I believe in it and my plan was to wait until I got married but things didn't work out that way. I'm 24 and didn't have sex until I was 22 was it worth it honestly no. I think they say it's better if you wait because when you do you would only have had sex with that one person and wouldn't know what to expect. If you have sex before then, than you know what you want and who has it and who doesn't. So I wouldn't say not to wait but I wouldn't tell you to either. Do what you feel is right for you but don't always believe the hype about sex because everybody ain't good, and dudes do respect you more when they find out your a virgin I know from experience, but you will get the ones who only want to have sex with you because you are one, so don't rush into anything.

Answer 5

I believe in abstinence before marrige for the following reasons:

If you have sex too much before you've found the person that you love enough to spend the rest of your life with, then it loses its meaning. Sex is supposed to be an action of love and trust (feelings that a husband and wife share).

Every woman over 21 that I know tells me they wish that they had kept their virginity.

If you save it for your husband, you will have better sex in your marriage, and you will both be a lot happier.

By that time, you will be mature enough to handle the emotional effects of having sex. There's also a less likely chance that you will get your feelings hurt by your husband like you can by your boyfriend.

Any boy who loves you will wait.

I'm a Christian, and it's a sin to commit adultery and fornication.

There are waaaay too many sexually transmitted infections going around for my liking.

Condoms and birth control are not 100% and you will be more prepared for a baby if you are married.

I think I made a fair case...don't you?

Answer 6

I totally believe in abstinence until marriage not only because of my religious beliefs but when I am married I know that I can support a child and can emotially deal with it. Just wait unitl you are married. You will be way more happy.

Answer 7

I sure do.....I believe in it because the Bible tells you to do that.And if people did believe in Abstinence then all the other problems that go along with having sex(w/o being married) would be nonexistent ...unwanted pregnancies,STD's,etc.So yes, I do believe that abstinence is for your won well-being.
IThessalonians 4:3 says.."For this what God wills,the sanctifying of you,that you abstain from fornication."

Answer 8

i really don't believe in it. yes u can wait till u r married but marriages don't always end happily ever after. i think if the moment is right and your in love and its with the right person go for it but don't forget to use protection. u can't stop someone from having sex before marriage. if you tell them no they r just gonna go and do it sooner. i know I'm not waiting till marriage. u never know what the person will turn into. how well can u really get to now somebody? that's just my personal opinion.

Answer 9

Yes, I do it allows you to actually get to know each other on the deepest of levels. Remember few marriages end because of sexual dissatisfaction. The sex was great, everything else was a disaster. Women make their best decisions where men are concerned fully dressed and standing up.

Answer 10

Yes, it is DEFINITELY worth waiting for! Although we had both been in sexual relationships before we got married (and yes, I regret it) my hubby and I waited until we were married to each other to make love. I can't begin to tell you how much it meant to both of us that we waited. It was a wonderful gift for beginning our marriage. We both wish we had saved that gift from the beginning.