My husband works a lot of hours, we had our fifth baby five months ago and the poor guy hasn't gotten any for at least 6 months. (Mainly because I'm afraid to get pregnant again. Very furtile). So my husband had a vasectomy recently. But after ten years, things get boring, how do I spice things up? I'm really lost for ideas.
2006-07-28 12:22:28 · 6 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you have family members or friends who can stay with the children so that you can have a getaway? If no one can stay overnight, get a baby sitter for a whole day and rent a hotel room just for the day. Each of you can bring a romantic gift for the other (plan this out ahead of time). Take some time to talk and reconnect as a couple, recalling the early days of your relationship. Maybe you can recreate something fun you did in those early years.
Take a long shower together and wash each other's hair. That can be so sensual and fun!
Best wishes!!!
from a grandma-aged person
2006-07-28 12:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make time for the both of you. You both have a lot of responsibility with having 5 kids and that can easily blind you to the fact that you aren't spending enough time with eachother alone.
Try to make it so that at least once or twice a month you guys have a night or a weekend (if you can get a relative to babysit overnight or something) to yourselves. You NEED a night to go out to dinner, go dancing, or just stay in and watch a movie. Having some fun and reconnecting will do wonders for your sex life. On top of that, you can also get some lingerie, have your hair/nails done, etc and surprise him in the bedroom with looking out of the ordinary.
2006-07-28 19:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't find happiness and satisfaction together doing simple things like holding each other, kissing and generally being together during rare private moments... Then I would say your chances are slim to none in the "spice it up" department...
2006-07-28 19:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Good luck
2006-07-28 19:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a strip tease they have videos you can do at home suprise him. they have differnet videos stripping, belly dancing you name it try www.activevideos.com good luck!
2006-07-28 19:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by goofy1770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some toys!
2006-07-28 22:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by Corinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋