It's like this. We were bestfriends and then it turned into bestfriends with benefits and then it turned into I dont know ... watever we have. All our friends thought we were secretly dating even when we were just friends so u can imagine how close we were. Anyway I really love him because he's the closest person in the world to me and I couldn't imagine not having him in my life friend or otherwise but sometimes I really hate his guts because he becomes such a patronizing, arrogant dick to me when we're in the company of other ppl (think "little wife" syndrome) which he never was when we were bestfriends and I would be fine with it if he backed it up by actually taking initiative or being u know more ...boyfriendly, towards me but he's such a p***y he would never stand up for himself much less me and it really hurts me because I think I deserve a guy who actually puts a little effort into being with me instead of someone who is using me for convenience sake... I dunno, your thoughts?
2006-07-28 12:12:51 · 4 answers · asked by Rika F 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
omg..U ARE AWESOME!! i'm forever giving advice to girls AND guys saying You are Worth it. know what you want in ur bf/gf, and make sure you find someone who treats u right, and who u Deserve. that's the key word.... if u think u are great gf material (many people don't have confidence in themselves), why the HELL would u settle for anything less than a guy who is a great bf??? of course ur gonna be sad about it, but not because you're a failure or because u made a bad decision.. it's cuz it didn't work out and he's too immature right now. he may very well like u a lot, but if he treats you badly, makes u feel bad about yourself, that is not the kind of guy u should hang on to. perhaps he makes a better friend than lover. so go ahead, know what u want and don't take any less than that!!!! keep up your self worth, and u will find someone who is worthy of you, and u are worthy of!!!
2006-07-28 12:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
U should never start going with someone whom you are best friends with. U only c what a good friend he is, that is untill u start 2 like him and then date him. U will start 2 c a whole new side of him, the bf side, which is not what u expected.9 out of 10 a male with a female best friend is not a good bf. If u wont to save ur frindship then stop giving him benefits and just be a friends, ur relationship will last longer
2006-07-28 19:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by mustbnice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did the right thing..
cuz god give us a brain to use it and think.. we must think of future and anything we do or say must depend o what will happen in the future " as u did"
for me if i met a girl and she was so close to me, i would do anything to keep her even if she asked me for my life i will give it to her, she will be everything and before i do anything i will think if that thing will be accepted by her.. i will love her by all my parts make her the queen of this world.. i know that i started to talk about myself but the summery if i think like that, for sure there is many people do like me.. so keep lookin for the best for you, and always maximize your self in the begining and then act the real you.. cuz u deserve the best.. if you need anything just e-mail me..
2006-07-28 19:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by meshan_heek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to take a break from him. Date. See what's out there. You won't know until you get on out there. He may be your best friend and you're very close but from what you describe you know what you want in a bf and he's not it.
2006-07-28 19:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋