2006-07-28 12:08:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go for the new guy.... your husband doesn't deserve such trash.
2006-07-28 12:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many factors here. Of course, you have a history with your spouse and i am certain it has now become a marriage of convenience. Have you told your husband about your new guy? Perhaps he suspects you are having an affair unless you have an 'open' marriage.
How long have you been together with this new guy? You are married, is he? How well do you really know him. Second time marriages that stem from affairs have a very low success rate. You might want to think about this long and hard. Also, can you really say you are ready to jump into another relationship when you still are with your spouse? You need to make a decision - either to make your marriage work or divorce. It is not a kind thing to string someone along - and promise them things that cannot be for one reason or another.
2006-07-28 19:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask on line a question like this, you are obviously doubting yourself knowing very well this is wrong. You and only you can make this answer so when it blows up in your face, then you only have yourself to blame for being an idiot. Its not having what you want, but want what you have! Maybe what you married your husband for in the first place is hiding, but if you want your marriage to work youll find it again. Time changes us all but we are always basically ourselfs. If you want something, take a risk, if you want something bad enough, then youll risk everything. Its just a matter of what you want, afterall you have to live with yourself if you make the wrong decision. I just hope you make the right one and that I wont have to answer your questions if youre wrong. Think really hard about it. Is it worth losing what you already have? Good luck!
2006-07-28 19:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will fall out of love with the new guy. All relationships get old. It's where commitment comes in and "true love" ...not "lust" develops. You can talk yourself itto going with this guy, but I would bet that in a relative short time you will tire of him the same way you tire of your husband. So I say leave your husband ...not for your happiness, but for your husbands happiness. You see you don't really love anybody except your self. Becasue of that you will always be unhappy. You will only get a passing view of what true happines is all about. I truly feel sorry for you.
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Good luck
2006-07-28 19:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not something to let yahoo answers decided. Did your new guy know that you were married? What does that say about him. Are you not afraid that he will leave you for someone else like you are thinking about doing to your husband. End one thing before starting another and talk to both of them. See what your new guy wants. He may be happy with just the little fling that you have and not want anything more. Is he married as well? In the end someone if not everyone will be hurt and you will be left with the burden of knowing that you caused it. Trust me.
Good luck.
2006-07-28 19:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by peachesgirl1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, if you have fallen out of love with your man then im sure you will fall out of love with this new guy.
when you first fell in love with your husband, was it like magical? like an amazing feeling of love that was so strong? well its like that now with this new guy, right? im sure it will all fall apart late down the road with this new guy too.
so you need to think. do you want to go from one guy to the other when love falls apart? or do you want to stay and work on the relationship with your husband? love can come back. and if you both try really hard you may fall in love all over again.
2006-07-28 19:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not jump to any fast decisions, haste makes waste, you have the seven year itch, what makes you think other guy is so much better than new guy, go away for a vacation and use this time to reflect on your real emotions, absence makes the heart grow fonder, if you feel the same when you get back then divorce and try again with new guy! love roccks!
2006-07-28 19:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you only think you're in love with someone else, you're questioning your feelings to the person you're married to. He doesn't deserve that. If you're not sure about either, get some counseling and see if you can't work things out with your husband. I really hope there aren't any kids involved in this...
2006-07-28 19:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read your own question - you've already decided who to be with by giving that person your love.
At least be a decent human being and tell your hubby you're not in love with him anymore before you go with this other guy.
2006-07-28 19:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seeing how you married...I assume you truly loved him? So, what makes you think you are truly in love this time..... or the next time....you choose your husband to be that....and you loved him....just because you are feeling comfortable, doesn't mean that is not love....be careful, and be sure to make that right decision, only you can....
2006-07-28 19:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question shows that you have already decided. You love a different man, so leave. Your husband deserves a wife that loves him, not a woman yearning for another. End it.
2006-07-29 14:19:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋