Last week my boyfriend moved to Georgia to see his kids and work to get him his own place (we were living with my parents) He wants me to move up there but the problem is that i'm 16 and he is 21 and my mother isn't going for it, i am not going to drop out or get pregnant i have set goals for myself and want to make my dreams come true. I don't want to leave my mother and sister because it would hurt them but i'm in love ( we have been together 3 years) and don't want to live the rest of my life wondering what it would have been is i would have moved in with him, you know? What should I do really...
2006-07-28 12:06:49 · 9 answers · asked by Ash 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That relationship isn't even legal in most states! Come on!
2006-07-28 12:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by Big Mak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite honestly...you're sixteen and it sounds like you can do so much better. I don't mean to dismiss your feelings. I have no doubt you have serious feelings for this guy. However, from an outsider's perspective I see a guy with a load of obligation that you didn't cause (two children) and a girl with drive and standards for herself. Lastly, if it is meant to be...it'll happen. I know that sounds like such crap...but it really will. I may not know everything, but I know that. Now, I don't mean "it'll happen" as in "you drop out and move there and start going to school there after your parents sign off on your marrying this guy." If he feels like he needs to move to GA then let him and you guys try a long distance relationship. If he's moving "up" to GA then you're in FLA and it's not that far a drive. If it's meant to be it'll work - there are tons of military families that work through distance. If it's not meant to be then you won't be a step mom but you'll have the great adventure of a wide open future and your own children. Good luck and keep an open mind. (PS don't be all dramatic about it if you can keep from it...it just makes for puffy eyes)
2006-07-28 12:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by Scadle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16, you are right to not want to get pregnant and drop out of school. Your priority must be for the goals you have set for yourself, and for the dreams you want to make true. If you are 16 and he is 21, he cannot legally live with you. At 21, he should be mature enough to put your needs for an education and your desires to acheive your dreams ahead of his desire to have you with him. If he really, truly loves you, he will wait for you. If you don't move and it isn't willing to wait for you, that only shows that he was never willing to wait in the first place. If he loves you, he will understand that your needs come first.
2006-07-28 12:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, coming from a 21 year old male. Your not even half of who you will become. When you turn 21 you will be a completely different person. Don't leave home, and don't leave your family behind. You will only regret it. Your best bet is to give it some time, and either you two won't make it, or enough time will pass and you'll be able to go without losing your family and dreams. best wishes.
2006-07-28 12:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by johdanjon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you willing to become a mother to the kids? because if you get into a relationship with a man, you are also in it with the kids and sometimes the ex/ are you willing to put up with all that being only 16 and all? if i were you i would stay home cuz then there will be the ? of what if i stayed home and lived the rest of my teenage years as a teenager
2006-07-28 12:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by browneyedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 16 so that meant you were 13 when you met him. I think you need to stay at home and experience life by yourself for a while. When you turn 18 if you still have feeling for him then you can make your own decision.
2006-07-28 12:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all that is just messed up.... he should find someone legal to "date".... Stay at home.
2006-07-28 12:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your guy is a pervert and probably already has a new 13 year old.
2006-07-28 12:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ,matter how hard it is, family is always more important
2006-07-28 12:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋