I want out of a bad relationship (emotional and mental abuse, he has been physically abusive once before ). I want to just up and disappear becaue I have asked him to leave, broke it off with him 3 times before only to have him ignore my request for him to leave (he does not make enough to go else where, nor the credit). Everything is currently in my name which I have no problem shutting everthing off. Problem #1 is my landlord won't let me move out unless I find a sublessor. I have discussed this matter w him and he said oh well,this is business, sorry. I am a fulltime student with 2 semester left unitlI graduate w/ degree, I just started a new job, and I have three kids 8,7,2. I want to just disappear but how can I do this with so many ties to the community. I cannot stand another day here with my boyfriend so don't suggest staying, its been to long already, and I have no family nearby nor people I can stay with.
2006-07-28 11:31:33 · 11 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
XXXXXXXXXXXX call the red cross in your area, they will help you find a shelter tonight. Then in the morning, go to Social services, they will help you find affortable housing and give you food stamps and medical for you and your kids. Stop taking a abuse. Leave now. Shelters are opened 24 hours. If you don't have a ride. Call the police, they will take you and your kids there. Good luck hun. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-28 11:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to get a restraining order in place. That way he has to leave and you will be able to stay where you are. I think that no one should be in an abusive relationship and has no way of leaving. So get in touch with a lawyer, tell them that you want a restraining order and then everything sho uld work out. I would try to wait until the two semesters are over to start getting into legal crap. Sometimes it can be to hard and with three kids, it will be to much. I think that will be the best time if you can hold out that long,
2006-07-28 11:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by J-Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the abused female syndrome. lots of people, alongside with the abused guy or woman can no longer comprehend why the attraction continues to be there, even however their head tells them this is the incorrect to be with the abuser. shop telling your self which you probably did the suitable suited ingredient--and by the way, congrats for paying for your self out of that. Time and endured counseling will furnish help to to get decrease back to your self as quickly as back. it style of feels strange and crappy precise now, i comprehend, yet in awhile you will start to sense greater advantageous. so a approaches as assistance to stay away? in case you start to think of approximately it, make your self think of approximately something else or do something else to distract your self till the urge passes. you will would desire to handle this like breaking an dependancy, on condition that's largely what that's. shop drawing near right here asking and answering questions. There are human beings right here who've been by way of what you're dealing with and it facilitates to renowned you at the instant are not on my own. Chin up, lady chum.
2016-10-01 05:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact your local battered womens shelter... help hotline... or other community resource...to point you in the right direction. and stick with it this time... your children deserve better and so do you. and stop worrying about his finances.. and no credit. that is not your concern. if his name is not on the lease.. let the landlord be the bad guy and order him out. if the landlord insists he wants you to stay than he can help out.. if not tell him to shut up. if you have to call police a few times.. and the landlord gets upset.. tell him it is just business.
2006-07-28 11:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's out, change the locks. Make sure your kids and landlord (and anyone else for whom this information is pertinent) know NEVER to let him in.
Do NOT feel sorry for him. Everything is yours. He's an adult, he'll find some other place to live.
Please let us know how things go.
Good luck.
2006-07-28 11:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and ask that they take you to a shelter. If you're in a large enough city, there should be multiple safe houses to choose from.
2006-07-28 11:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by mnbaby2156 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order, then he will have to move out. As long as the restraining order is valid he can't come near you, and by law, even if his name is on the lease he has to move out.
2006-07-28 11:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything is in your name, so call the police and have him physically removed from the premises.
2006-07-28 11:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to the police, ask for help...
you said you have ties to the community?
ask your friends for help!
and close this out so that he doesn't see it.
2006-07-28 11:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and talk to the police and get a restaining order against him
2006-07-28 11:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋