show I leave letters to my kids ? I have NO idea how to explain my death to them... I guess the notes will say I love them... but they will think I do not love them, if I am dead....... so, does anyone know what I should write in them? If I tell them in the letters, that I can't take the pain anymore... they will always think of me badly...... and i can't say that I died "suddenly" with no explanation, because they will learn the truth. Any suggestions? This is a serious question.
2006-07-28 11:24:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ohh dear dear plz if u r gonna kill urself don't do it .i ask u this by ur love to ur kids .if ur life is so hard now it would be horrible to ur kids after that .they need their mum . u can give them a lot of care and love if u stay more than words can do.
and believe me when we feel that the life is so bad it surprises us .just keep the hope.
dear if u r sick try to see more than one doctor .but u can explain to ur kids that u r so sick and say how much u love them and how u want them to be the best . tell them that u will care of them and be with them always .
ohh dear wish God be with u and help u .u really made me cry ..if u have the decision plz think again ..i'll pray for u ..
2006-07-28 11:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by oomx555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about this because you are planning to hurt yourself/commit suicide then I would seriously suggest that you go see a doctor or check yourself into a hospital. You need to live for yourself and for your children. You are their mother and they need you!
If you are asking this because you are dying from a terminal illness that is a different story. But the way you worded makes me think you are dealing with a lot of emotional pain and don't know what to do with it. Talk to someone - a close friend or family member and get in to see a psychiatrist asap. Death is not the answer. Your children love you, your family loves you, and you have many people who care for you. Your kids don't deserve to grow up without a mom, especially if she can do something to about whether or not she will be with them or not.
2006-07-28 18:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have already left my children notes, that way if I ever die.. then they know what I thought of them and how much they were loved by me, no matter if I die in a car wreck or heart attack or what... they'll know...
This is truely a hard question... if you were my parent.. I would be upset either way.... try and put yourself in their shoes...
Also.. just remember ... they are your children and do you really WANT them to live wihout you ? Aren't you scared of what will happen to them if they don't have you around ?
Please try and think of all ways to communicate your pain to your children now and explain to them just how much you do and have loved them... tell them how proud of them you are and for doing great things ...
Honestly.. I have a sister who has MS and is in absolute pain everyday and I would not want to live wihout her ... even tho some days she would rather do herself in and end it all... but ppl need her... and so she hangs on...
I hope you'll reconsider and do the same so your children can see you as couragouse and strong... otherwise... your setting an example for them to give up on things when you can't deal. Is that what you really want ?
May God keep you where you belong.. with your children...
2006-07-28 18:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are selfish! If you are worried about your kids stay with them. It sounds like you want to die not that you have an illness. Go get help! You can't take the pain anymore think of the pain you will cause them. I hope this question is a joke! Parents should be selfless and you should not have been blessed with kids if you are able to ruin their lives so easy. Please get help!
2006-07-29 23:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by buster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going to be hard to hear..but if you loved them, you Would stay alive for them. u would fight tooth and nail to give them the best, which is a life w/ their loving, wonderful mother. what kind of pain are you going thru, is it physical or emotional?? either way, you CAN get help. whether just talking to someone, therapy, medications, or time with ur kids.... u have to find the positives in life and let the negative go..... if u have to go to church, go to meetings, talk to ur children..... do what u have to do in order to ensure a safe, healthy, and happy home for your children.... i pray that u can somehow find the strength to fight for ur love for them, instead of giving up... i don't know ur situation so we can't say what to do or what not to..but u have a lot to live for it seems like, and u can STILL do good, no matter what has happened in the past.
if u have time, please read Romans 5-8 in the bible... hopefully it can give u some sort of peace, that no matter waht u've done and experienced, u can use it to help u become stronger, and to make better decisions in the future.
2006-07-28 18:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are gonna commit suicide please don't because yes your pain will end but what about everyone who loves and depends on you come on do not be selfish your kids need you and other people as well plus tomorrow is a new day and great stuff is bound to happen remember after the rain there is always sunshine and sometimes even a beautiful rainbow i tried killing myself in high school and boy do i regret it because i would have never lived this beautiful life that i am living now with my son hey get help please you will not regret it i promise.God bless you and give you strength
2006-07-28 18:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by alexgandera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you going to die. are you are planning to kill your self? it kind of sounds like it. don't do it.. you have your kids to live for and thats more than enough. they should make you want to live. and all else should fall short to you love for them. you are being selfish and only thinking of your self. and your kids will never be the same if you do this. also you need to think about the fact that us parents lead by example. so what if your kids looked at it like well you killed you self so it's always an option. do you want your kids to have that kind of frame of mind?
suicide is NOT an option...you need to get through this no matter how hard it is .your kids are watching. this is how we teach them to get through hard times in there life's.
by watching us do it. and not letting it destroy us. teach them to be strong. so they can teach the grandchildren
you will one day have to be strong too.
also what about the pain they will have to take with you gone. how will they take it. they wont know how too.
please think this through a bit more. and GOD BLESS YOUR HEART....
2006-07-28 18:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people are right here...do not commit suicide...things will get better....if you think you have it bad now someone in this world has it 10 times worse...if you kill yourself your kids will have a harder time than you are now...just be patient and things will get better
also...if you have kids that are young you must not be that old...you still have a long life ahead of you....many good things can happen in that time....everyone is depressed sometimes and your kids are more hope and happiness than most people have
2006-07-28 19:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by Zane L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The note that you leave is called a "Will." Go to nolo.com and have a look.
If you are dying from pain, see your doctor. There are several pain relievers -- taking them is better than dying.
2006-07-28 18:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you commit suicide, you will do far more damage to your children than anything else they'll go through in this life. They'll be angry that you left them, but they'll also hate themselves, thinking that if they'd been better, if they'd obeyed more, if they'd loved you more, you would have stuck around.
If you love your children, please, please, find a way to deal with the pain. Put your children above your own self and get help.
2006-07-28 18:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋