last year, and we are very close. I really don't want to be seperated from him, but our financial situation is going to be too tight if I don't work. How do you get over missing your child? The first time I left him with someone, The very first and only time, he got badly hurt with a bad injury to his mouth and nose. When I left him with her(she is a relative), she assured me she would take care of him and watch him. Every time I think about it I start to cry. How can I trust anyone to take care of him when my own family member let him get badly hurt?
2006-07-28 11:06:34 · 12 answers · asked by cara24@sbcglobal.net 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I am not a mom, but I remember when I was younger and my mom had an in home daycare. she knows CPR and all kinds of first aid things and I am sure any day care you find will be the same. after a while my mom found a job at a day care business and she actually had my sister and I go to another one so we could learn how to behave and act and get along without our mom. it was fun. we met new friends and went different places. dont feel guilty, know your son will be in safe hands and the workers know how to take care of injuries if they do happen and let your son get to know other kids his own age and that will help his social skills when he gets older. trust me, day care is nothing like they say, its a healthy place to take your kids! just ask if you can take a tour of the day care and shop around!!!
2006-07-28 11:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by flutterflie04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really need to work to ensure that he has what he needs, then you shouldn't have to feel guilty.
Can you ease into it? Leave him with someone else for five minutes (or fifteen minutes, or half an hour), whatever is the maximum time you can do without feeling apprehensive. Tell him you where you are going, and that you will be back -- in some way he can understand like "after you have finished eating your lunch." Leave even if he cries. Come back, as promised, be glad to see him, and work up to longer times.
Obviously pick the daycare with extreme care, so you know he is in good hands. You can probably get permission to bring him by for an hour and sit and watch him play for a bit.
Why not to feel guilty? It's part of his growing up. He'll learn to have social interactions with kids. He'll get to do some activities at daycare that he might not have done at home. He'll be exposed to lots of germs to develop his immune system.
The hardest thing will be not to convey your apprehension to him.
Good luck. I'm interested to see what other answers people have for you.
2006-07-28 11:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a friend of yours that also has a child in day care, and put your kid in the same place. If nothing bad has happened with her kid, you can be assured the same will go for yours. Dont worry, when my mother had me- i was her first- she wouldnt let anyone touch me and she was naturally paranoid even before having a child. After experience things will grow on you, and if you ever have any more kids it'll be easier after each one. Just do your best for him when you are available.
2006-07-28 11:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a nanny fulltime until I was 5 years old. I hardly ever saw either of my parents, but I still loved them so much. I think your son will get over it very quickly because, well, children have like a two second rebound rate. I have never held any grudges angainst my parents at all. I think if you are a good parent when you do see your children it will makeup for leaving him at daycare.
2006-07-28 11:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what to tell u im a stay at home mom i stay home with my 2 babys.. do u have a husband. if o y not have him work and u stay home like alot of ppl do. we make it by every week or what ever and always have money to spend. unless ur the type that has to have everything and can only buy execive stuff. try a place called walmart. its cheep and everything looks just like expencive stuff but for more than 1/2 the price and just sas good
2006-07-28 11:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god >< I don't blame you for being upset, but accidents happen! You just have to let go sometimes. Maybe you should start leaving him with someone else...? Of course, you'll have to put it politely to the woman you had watching him.
It's very hard to let go of a young child. IT's natural that your thoughts and concern are solely on him, but as a parent, you're going to have to learn the right times to let go. Now is one of those times. When you're a parent, you're going to be letting go a lot.
2006-07-28 11:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to change your lifestyle and live a little tighter for awhile, then you can stay home with your son, he is your number 1 responsibility right now. Just remember, you never get this time with him back.
2006-07-28 11:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Caleb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered taking on a couple of babies at your house? My sis in law watches a couple of kids, and she makes pretty good money and she gets to stay home with her 2 younger kids while her older ones are at school.
2006-07-28 13:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww i've been there hun. The best thing you can do is think about all the great things he will have now that there will be another income. Make sure you research anyone who will watch him. Good luck
2006-07-28 11:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys are going to be boys they are going to get hurt.
You can't say you never got hurt, its a part of life.
I think you are being way over pertective. he needs to be around kids, he can learn alot from other kids his age believ it or not.
Your going to turn him into a sissy mommas boy
2006-07-28 12:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by dido45dido 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋