Do you feel that parents are not doing their "job" as parents and that's why alot of kids are uncontrollable

Question

What do think is the problem?

Answer 1

Parents don't stay in control enough when the kids are young. It sounds terrible but a child should fear letting down their parents and always respect them. A lot of parents have to work outside the home these days and to make up for that often parents let the kids get away with too much. They'll be sorry. An uncontrollable two year old will be a problem 12 year old.

Answer 2

I believe that people have parents before they are emotionally prepared to handle them. So, when the parent is trying to work out their issues, the child is being emotionally neglected. It's one thing to have enough food on the table, but it's another to be able to interact with a child without screaming, yelling, punishing and hitting them. I believe part of the problem is the changing nature of relationships, in general. More and more people are divorcing which just adds more stress. More people are unable to depend on their families for help or don't have family to help on the bad days. Teachers are underpaid and unable to give time to all their students and parents can't pick up the slack if they don't understand the topics. Today's diets are awful where most children have never touched a vegetable. Additives, chemical, pesticides and such are causing havoc on their little bodies and then they are drugged with all kinds of medications to make them "act right." It takes more than a job and a "lot of love" to raise a child. It takes patience, understanding, support and willingness to pursue solutions that are not just a quick fix. The path of least resistance has never been the path of best results.

Answer 3

There are 3 major problems in parenting today that need to be addressed.

1. People don't disipline thier kids because they feel badly doing it. "When I was a kid my mom used to put a bar of soap in my mouth for swearing. I vowed never to disipline my child for speaking thier mind". Its a bunch of crap because if you don't teach your child what is right and what is wrong, then they end up deviants.

2. Kids don't have enough to do. Children are sedentary creatures now. They need to expell some energy in a positive way. I'm not talking about sign every kid up for soccer, swimming, dance, and all that crap. That kind of programmed activity is good for some kids, but some kids are more stressed by it then anything. I'm saying..get em up to help around the house. Mow the yard, pick up sticks...build a fort, paint, make mud pies, dig in teh sandbox, plant flowers, play with the dog. Get em off the couch and outside to burn off some of the crap they eat so they don't have to use that energy in a negative way, fighting, being unagreeable..that sort of thing.

3. There are too damn many kids. There are thousands of kids that don't have homes and need them badly, but crack hoe down the street keeps having them even though she can't afford them..or keep them. Money is tight today even if you're on your own, with kids the expenses rise and the stress rises. More kids, more money, more stress. People need to think about adopting, and also the kind of life they are going to give thier kids before they go and have a million of them. If parents are miserable your kids will be too.

Answer 4

Yes. A lot of parents now will blame everyone but themselves when their kid screws up. They'll go blame the media, or video games, or movies, or music, or anything to get the responsibility off of them. It's time for them to step up.

I'm not saying that it's always the parents fault. There are some things that you can't help, and I understand that. All a parent can do is raise them as best as they can and if something happens, realize that even if it isn't their fault, it isn't anyone else's fault, either. Sometimes, things just happen.

Answer 5

i think that most parents are doing the best they can under the circumstances: 1. government has taken away the right as a parent to discipline their own children - i am a firm believer in "spare the rod, spoil the child" 2. children no longer fear their parents or God. 3. even in school, prayer has been taken away along with corporal punishment. 4. the community feels as if hands are tied because now most people don't want other people to tell their children what to do and when to do it. so, what can we do?

Answer 6

The government is in charge, when kids, being disciplined for misbehaving, can call the police on their parents.
Me, I would tell the cops, you can have the kids. When you get tired of their BS, I may talk to you if I feel like it.
I just don't take crap from anyone, including the government, or my kid. And she knows it and toes the line.

Answer 7

the answer to this question is way too complex for this type of forum. this could be the case, but there are parenting trends in certain communities also. also, lack of education plays a role too. and that is not always the parents fault. too much to list for this.

Answer 8

parents are trying to be the kids friend, not their parent.

parents have responsibilities yet they expect the government to do that job for them.

then they fail to fund or authorize the government to do an effective job.

Answer 9

no.....for younger children yes........but me being a teen i'd have to say no. we choose to do what we want thinking that we're grown. parents do their jobs raising their kids and teens peers do their job of undoind everything parents teach their kids.

Answer 10

Yes! Kids are no longer afraid to do anything wrong. This is a lack of parenting. They are not "afraid" of their parents. What are they gonna do? can't hit me, they gonna take my gameboy? big deal....