but says he shows me love other ways but at the same time picking on me and calling me names is he worth sticking around for and should i leave
2006-07-28 11:01:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
XXXXXXXXXXXXXX I think the reason he doesn't show it is because he doesn't feel it. You husband lost the magnatism he once had. Picking on you is just his way of showing how he truely feels but he doesn't have the guts to really tell you whats on his mind. The flower you ones grew with him died hun. Sorry. He's just hanging on, just because. You don't need a man like that in your life. There is someone out there who's waiting to give you the love and affection and attention you need and deserve. Kick his butt to the curb. Love is in the air, you got to find it. More flowers have bloomed since you married him. Follow your heart. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-28 11:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think marriage counselling is a good idea.
Set some ground rules with him if he calls you names tell him he's hurting your feelings than that you expect people that love you to talk to you with respect. You can do this by using the I feel hurt when you say ..... in future if you speak to me try to be nice to me. Than if he does try harder reward him with a smile or tell him how special that made you feel. Some behaviours are learnt and it takes 21 days to acquire a new behaviour so stick with it. About the affection have you asked him to hold your hand some ppl just don't like to be touched a lot and some just have the learn-ed behaviour...Good luck.
2006-07-28 18:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like me i have a live in boyfriend that shows me no affection at all im tempted to move on to a new man we have been together for six yrs i guess what im saying is that you are the one that is going to have to decide if he is worth it or not is it worth going without hugging kissing touching etc good luck to you
2006-07-28 18:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by thunder_18431 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he like this before you married him? If so then why on earth did you marry him. He sounds very immature and like he hasn't progressed passed the 2nd grade stage where you show a girl you like her by pulling her hair. Looks like you straight up made a mistake, i'm sure he was like this before the wedding, you didn't notice then or it was ok with you then? Leaving or not is up to you, if you don't want to live this way I guess thats your only option because this is probably just who he is.
2006-07-28 18:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you knew about this what will happen? I was wondering about that. I am sure that you would make the choice of leaving him. Because that not love and caring and protect you.
I think that you can find better man than he is. You don't need to go though picking on you and calling you names. wow, I would never let any men say to their women.
I never say that to my wife. She the best thing for me in the world. Forgive for my english I am deaf and I try my best to make sure it clear smiling.
2006-07-28 18:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well If this is something thats been going on ever since you met then there is probably an underlying problem involving his childhood. does he have a good relationship with his parents? IF not then thats your answer and you should talk to him and probably get him in therapy. IF this is new then I don't know what to tell you. DO you think he's worth it?
2006-07-28 19:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on you and your self esteem and make him believe that you can survive without him, which of course you can!!!! He will probably change if he thinks you are going to leave him. Right now he is just playing petty, silly games since he believes that you are not going anywhere.
2006-07-28 18:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should have to take abuse, no matter what kind. If you are not happy, then moving on with your life would be a good thing. Life is too short to go through that.
2006-07-28 18:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent 15 yrs going through that kind of abuse from my kidsdad. He cheated on me & abused me & said words were stronger than actions so if he said he loved me & then punched it wouldn't matter.I told him he was crazy. Well i've been alone for 6 yrs but its okay better than taking that. I'm raising our 6 kids too. 7g,10g,12b,15g,16g & 18g. Believe me ,it can be tough but its better than that.,
2006-07-28 18:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by momof6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is abusive to me. He has to knock you to make himself feel better. Is this how you want to live. Maybe he is afraid someone he would like to be with will see you kissing on him and that person he doesn't want them knowing his is married.
I would really think this one through.
2006-07-28 18:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋