Should I be Fed Up with the Ex?

Question

So me and my fiance have been arguing lately, because his ex won't stop child support. Even though she came and dropped on of the boys off because she couldn't handle it, and the other one...well she just hasn't played her part to follow the court order where they are with her every other week or weekend. In fact, she hasn't called them to see how they are doing for a few weeks already! I just don't understand if she says it was never about the money, then why doesn't she stop the child support!! And now, WE need that extra $$ because having two more kids in our household requires it! I'm fed up, and we are in the process of taking her back to court, but you know how long those things can take. UUUURRRRGGGG

Answer 1

...and you are gonna marry this man?

Answer 2

The only option that you have is to go to court to stop child support, and file for sole custody of the children. In many states, the lack of communication, as well as the minor children physically with the father, constitutes possible abandonment, which is grounds for termination of parental rights. Also, if child support is currently still being paid with the children in the home, you may be able to file for retroactive child support; in short, she has to give the money that she received recently back to the father.

Answer 3

The courts are the only way to go. Until you get a court order he will have to pay. The situation is not worth the two of you fighting over. Do the best you can for now, and get to court as soon as possible.

Answer 4

If you are taking her back to court then you have to be patient and let the system work. You ex can only do so much. You need to be much more patient with him.

Answer 5

I'm confused... you said "and the other one..." So, this guy has two exes? Sounds like a real winner. I don't mean to sound mean, but you'll probably have more sympathy for the exes after you become one.