i'm really afraid of becomming an "adult" ... and the whole idea of getting married is scary!
how can u live with one person for the rest of ur life? what if problems occured ... what if u got divorced!
isn't it better to just date ...?!
2006-07-28 10:41:39 · 18 answers · asked by >DraMa Qu33N< 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well let me tell you. It's not peaches and cream. A marriage will always have problems. But if you love the person you will try to make the best of it. It nice to have the person you love with you when you wake up in the morning. But it's something you will not understand until your there. Let me tell you some people can't be with the same person for a long time that's why they are here and there. But not everybody is the same......Don't think negative about life, it's fun if you do things the right way.
2006-07-28 10:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by yo_010180 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's the whole idea of marriage is spending the rest of your life with one mate and building a future together raising a family. And if your not ready for that then don't get married. And yes things go sour in some marriages and end up in a divorce court. So stay a kid as long as you want, no one says you have to get married. I can only say it was a nightmare for me, and not sure if I can do it again or not. Good Luck.ak
2006-07-28 17:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a wonderful institution. No doubt about it. The problem is that people make bad choices, ergo, the result is a bad marriage.
For someone who is afraid of becoming an "adult", you are asking very "adult" questions. Most of the women I meet don't just want to date. They want to get hitched or have babies. Ambrose Bierce wrote that love was temporary insanity cured by marriage. Most people I know got married when they were young and some of them changed as they became older. That's natural and scary in that if you grew closer to your mate that's fine, but if you began to grow apart, that's terrifying.
I could write volumes in response to your questions, but I would prefer and one-one-one in person conversation.
2006-07-28 18:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not ready for marriage if your thinking like that , you just need to date more people and when you find the right person you will want to spend the rest of your life with them. Happily Married for 14 years!
2006-07-28 17:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...marriage seems to be more for people who feel that they are capable of a lifetime committment with one person no matter what. It's like the vows say "for better or worse". A lot of people say those vows, and screw things up. It may be best to be with someone for as long as you possibly can before you get married. Then at least you know you and that person are in it to win it, and then it's all just about getting a piece of paper signed.
2006-07-28 17:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by G D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st things 1st: IS HE/SHE THE ONE? is this the person you want to have kids with, wake up to everyday for the rest of your life, etc, etc? is he father material? does he have serious anger issues? if you answer is yes, say good bye NOW!! issues with it become a life of it!! has he made you number one in his life? (very important, especially with women)
2nd thing to think about: are you financially ready, have you finished college, do you have a steady job? and does he/she? marriage is hard enough without all the uneeded B.S. that life comes with. it is a very happy occasion, but will it always be? NO, you have to work to keep it that way. a marriage is not 50/50 it is 100/100.
2006-07-28 17:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know if your not planing a wedding right now why even wast your energy on this ,or even try to make a decision when you really dint have to wait and just let life take its course,you ll be fine,being a grown up is Grata its your choices in life that matters so enjoy it is tr here a real hurry have your fun in becoming a good grown up have funyour noyt there yet and everyone is scared of the unknown its great make your own unknown live
2006-07-28 17:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by Ann B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im the one who is gonna get married with my fiance.i think marriage is a commitment between two persons.but in my view marriage is beautiful if u live with someone u really love and love u.i was afraid before but when u found true love u will want it.dont listen any advices.make desition with ur own heart and have to be surely about..read bible MATHEW CHAPTER 19,god will let u know
2006-07-28 18:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by JD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's something about sharing a whole life together and knowing that one person knows everything about you and your history. If you can get that without marriage, I don't think the piece of paper is the key element, but a lifetime commitment is worth the effort.
2006-07-28 17:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Arrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say either you have a problem with commitment or you just plain haven't found the one to marry. Seriously why b in a hurry to grow up go have fun be a kid...forever if needed. Don't rush into anything and you will be fine.
2006-07-28 17:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋