Or maybe it's me. How can I tell? I was married for 11 yrs and never felt it. Now I've been living w/ my other half for 7 yrs. and nothing either. HELP!!!!
2006-07-28 10:33:12 · 11 answers · asked by ri coqui 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not every woman can have an orgasam during intercourse alone! Most need direct clitoral stimulation.
So my advice to you is to spend some time in the oral sex department.
You're not alone, not every woman can have an orgasam with just sex.
2006-07-28 10:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, your predicament is not that unusual. It's always been amazing to me the number of women who've never had an orgasm. And quite a few of them, like you, were married for many years.
Some women have more difficulty achieving orgasm but, with a little experimentation, the odds are extremely high that you should be able to have one that's completely satisfying.
I would suggest that the first thing you should do is buy a vibrator so you'll have some idea of what you're missing. You can experiment with insertion and direct clitoral stimulation to get an idea of what you like best . If you're persistent, you will achieve orgasm.
You should also consider that female orgasm was virtually unknown until the mid-60s. For many men, it's still a mystery and they need a little help and guidance. When you're making love, you can steer him gently by telling him what feels good (not bad). If he has any interest in a good sexual relationship, it shouldn't be that difficult to train him.
Another consideration, is what you do when you make love. Is it just intercourse or is there quite a bit of foreplay? Generally, women take longer to stimulate so you might want to try something that prolongs the experience; perhaps role playing or fooling around while watching an erotic video all the way to the end.
Is he willing to perform oral sex? It's much, much easier is to achieve orgasm if he will. If he won't, he's not trying very hard to satisfy.
The last thing to consider is that some men just don't give a damn. As long as he can achieve orgasm that's all that matters. If that's the case, you might want to change partners or make Mr. vibrator your closest friend.
Good luck!
2006-07-30 17:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by magic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have never given one to yourself??? Girl get in the bath tub....let the water run over a certain area and enjoy. Also, you know there are toys right??? If you are talking about with a man then.....have him go down on you, if that doesn't work then he is probably not doing it right. During sex try getting on top and grind your "sensitive spot" down on the top part of his pelvis while he is inside you. Also, you can have him play with that area (or you) while you are having intercourse. Having a "g" spot orgasm is a little more difficult and can require some maneuvering and studying. Go to your local book store and buy a kama sutra book.
good luck and happy oragasming
2006-07-28 17:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you pay a visit to a Doctor (specialist) and check out your problem from all angles. I have a girl friend who never had an orgasm and we discovered that if I used my fingers while we were hiding the pickle that she finally had the desired result repeatedly. All human beings are not cut from the same mold. Try the doctor first and foremost.
2006-07-28 17:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had an orgasm, you would know it.
It is EASIER to give yourself an orgasm than to expect someone to give one to you. Once you figure out HOW, you can tell your other what will get you there.
Practice touching yourself when your other isn't around. (He will be grateful in the long run. And in the meantime you won't feel pressured to get it right immediately.)
Hint: A handheld showerhead might be a good starting point.
2006-07-28 17:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Koriandr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure it out for yourself first, then you'll be able to help your other half, accomplish the task. If you don't know how and what makes you tick, you won't be able to help them, figure it out either.
2006-07-28 18:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your lover perform oral sex on you and you'll have one, guaranteed. Vibrators work, too, for when you're alone.
2006-07-29 15:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by cryptoscripto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have any secret fantasies ,tell them about it,
get a vibrator, can you give yourself one?,,maybe you should see a DR.
2006-07-28 17:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Richie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u tried carassing ur self, and finding out what stimulates u.
2006-07-28 17:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by Curly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should always be relax, and practice touching yourself when your other isn't around
2006-07-28 18:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋