my bf asked what i wanted for my birthday. i said a rabbit. he thought i meant a pet but when i explained i meant a vibrator he got shirty. i can't believe he's jealous of a rabbit? was i out of line?
2006-07-28 10:28:30 · 25 answers · asked by minerva 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i was hoping we could enjoy it together
2006-07-28 10:32:55 · update #1
we're both in our 40s
2006-07-28 10:36:11 · update #2
No...you just bruised his ego a little bit. He's all wrapped up in maybe he doesn't keep you happy enough....explain how much fun it can be to use together..and if he doesn't buy you one..buy yourself one.
2006-07-28 10:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Crazy Bch 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Chuckles, you must have caught him on an off moment. Some guys like to think that if they are good enough in bed, you won't need a vibrator.
You stepped on his ego, time to go back in for the repair job.
First of all, tell him you are sorry that it bothered him and IF you hurt his feelings you are sorry (that IF prevents him from having to admit he has feelings in the first place)
Then, preferably as you are slowly stripping him down to nothing, sensually tell him that you want the rabbit for all the times that you think of him and can't be with him, and that you get so hot just thinking about him, that you just have to ***, and *** hard . . . and that if he gets you a rabbit, then it'll be the next best thing to having him.
You tell him that the right way, he'll buy you a dozen rabbits.
As far as the using it together. again, careful of his ego.
Thats something that you are going to have to present as a 'massage' tool . . . use it on his backs and legs . . . before springing the concept of you wearing it while he takes you.
2006-07-28 10:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you were out of line. It's a rather tactless request when you think about it. Imagine if he asked you for a vibrating silicoln vagina for his birthday or some pornographic magazines, how would that make you feel? He's not jealous. He's upset because you insulted him. It's second to saying 'You are inadequate sexually, I need a substitute because you are not enough to satisfy me.'
Unfortunately a lot of people think that men and women are unequal and it's somehow ok for you to make this request because you are female. It's actually very rude. I'm proud of your boyfriend for standing up to you, you should be proud of him too.
2006-07-28 10:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason is simple its what a male values the most his ego in a mans head you didn't ask for a rabbit you said your crap in bed i need a vibrator obviously not the case as you said you wanted to use it together sit down and tell him hes great that you only wanted the rabbit for you both to enjoy he might come round. good luck
2006-07-28 10:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men think that when you say you want a vibrator that he is crap in bed and his willy is rubbish. Why dont you just buy one but also get him a toy like a vibrating co** ring? My missus and I use these in our love making and its so intense. Massage his ego, tell him he has the best tackle in the world blah blah blah. That'd do the trick!
2006-07-28 11:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by electric/discotequer/robot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are intimidated by toys. they think they're inadequate in your eyes. Some even see it as an insult. Personally, I think it's way cool! Some people just aren't very open minded or playful.
2006-07-28 10:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your sex life, your sexuality. You're not out of line. Perhaps you might have said it more tactfully, perhaps not, but you did OK to say it. However you fix this, make sure you come out of it with the rabbit.
2006-07-28 10:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brilliant!
2006-07-28 10:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by Katey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way, he should be thrilled you asked for a vibrator. maybe to ease his poor fragile male ego, suggest instead a remote control vibrator that HE can control.
2006-07-28 10:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by mashmagazine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be fun together. Just make sure you don't give the rabbit more than you give him.
2006-07-28 16:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by waterfowlwidowmaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a great bond when you bring other toys into the bedroom. Maybe he feels that he can't pleasure you if you have a toy. (well maybe he can't?) There are toys for guys. Get him one to break the ice.
2006-07-28 10:34:26 · answer #11 · answered by sissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋