I dont get this...my b/f wants to get married with me when i'll turn 19, this age is sooo young for me to get married, i need to study and become a docter, and i know that my parents will never accept me getting married at such an early age, i love my b/f, he loves me too, he said he can wait for me only for 2 years, and after 2 years i will just turn 19. I asked him to wait for me for atleast 3 years more, but he said that he cant wait for that long...
im just confused why cant he wait for that long
im 17 right now, and he's 24,
i think its ok for a guy to get married at the age of 28 or 29...i dunno why does he want to get married sooo early...n dats y he left me
how shall i talk to him abt this, what shall i say, i dont wanna leave him, and he's not at all talking to me now, his last words were:
"go live ur life and follow ur dreams, im not gonna come b/w u and ur studies and dreams, u're free to do anything"
2006-07-28 10:24:41 · 14 answers · asked by SARA H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I get the feeling that he wants you to be a stay-at-home mom. Your dreams of becoming a doctor are contrary to his wants. If you get married, then you have to consider what he wants, and... perhaps... he's hoping to influence you to give up your dreams.
What you should probably do is realize that he's 7 years older, in a totally different place in his life than you are in yours, and he wants things you don't. Pursue your dreams, and, if it's meant to be, he'll be there when you're done. If not, you'll find someone else AND you'll have at least gone after what you've always wanted.
2006-07-28 10:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by BeenThere69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is dating a teenager because he is scared of real grown-up women. He thinks dating someone younger will mean he can tell you what to do.
Getting married 2 years from now is too distant a problem to worry about. What else does he boss you around about?
When you get older and go to college, you will have less and less patience with this and will probably want to break up (which will probably make him pretty mad). If you are still wanting to date him now (and if your parents are honestly ok with this) be SURE not to get pregnant. (And yeah, sex with you does make him something of a pediphile. He shouldn't be doing that. No matter how much he says he loves you.)
2006-07-28 10:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Koriandr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it all seems so important right now...and it is but, unfortunately most of the time men are not here "forever". What would you do if you married him, didn't go to college and follow your dreams and it ended in divorce. Well, I have been there and it sucks!!!! If he loves you then he should support you in you career. Girl, go to college, have fun, learn a lot, make damn good money and if he is there in the end, well that's great, if not, then you know you made the right choice!!! See it should be a no-brainer....live your life for you, support yourself and if he is along for the ride that is just a plus.
2006-07-28 10:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This problem is one where you two are in different places in your life and you want different things. And it sounds like he's not willing to wait for you to live your life.
A long time from now you're going to realize that this is probably the best way for things to turn out. You should NEVER rush into marriage or get married because you feel pressured to.
2006-07-28 10:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Krysdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your question should be, why would a 24 year old date a 17 year old? If your parents are ok with that, than marrying a guy at 19 shoudn't be an issue... No offense to you, but your boyfriend is a pedophile.
2006-07-28 10:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Chris C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he can wait. He's probably afraid that you'll find someone better once you start college, so he wants to "claim his property" now by getting married. But the truth is, you WILL find someone better at college or possibly after. Pursue what YOU want first, don't change your goals to make someone else happy. If you do, it will never last and then what will you have?
2006-07-28 10:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by misslabeled 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aspire to be a doctor, it occurs to me that this situation is a good test of your maturity and decision making gifts. Make the wrong choice, and the nearest you'll get to the medical profession will most likely be frequent visits to the pediatrician. Just an opinion. No offense.
2006-07-28 10:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for the dislike element: We hate that which contradicts the Qur'aan and Sunnah. And it isn't the minor themes which includes Mut'ah which we hate the Rawaafidh for. this is for the Shirk this is interior the theory of Imaamiyyah, the Shirk of the theory of al-Bada' and the shirk in the theory of the tahreef of the Qur'aan and the Kufr of becoming takfeer of the Sahaabah and a great variety of alternative themes with their ideals. it is not that Ahlus Sunnah have hate for the Shee'ah with the aid of fact they're Iraaqis or that they venerate Ahlul Bayt. extremely this is the Rafdh which we hate, the rejection of the Sahaabah and the making Takfeer of them. Imaam Aboo Bakr al-Khallaal stated in his Sunnah (2/557) from Abee Bakr al-Maaroodhee who stated that Maalik bin Anas mentioned: ???? ???? ????? ????? ??? ???? ???? ???? ??? ??? ??? ?? ??? ???? ?? ??????? ((the guy who reviles the companions of the Prophet (??? ???? ???? ????) does not have any proportion or element in Islaam)) And as for killing them: Then we extremely supply da'wah to them. yet as for people who combat us and bring up the sword against us like they tried to do to Shaykh 'Alee al Hudhayfee and prefer how they tried to do it to Shaykh Muqbil bin Haadee and how they did it with Shaykh Ihsaan Illaahi and different than them... then those people in the event that they proceed to be upon Kufr and Shirk we ask Allaah to lead them or ruin their backs.
2016-10-08 10:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you or he would not say that to you. He's trying to force you into doing what he wants you to. Stay on the track you are, go to school and become what you want. There's plenty of time for boyfriends later, and if he doesn't like it, kick him to the curb.
2006-07-28 10:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't wait for you, he doesn't love you, plain and simple. A man who loves you and respects your goals will wait as long as you want to wait to marry.
Ask him why he won't wait, and be prepared to leave him- your education is far more important than a guy who won't accept your choices.
2006-07-28 10:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋