this is just a hypothetical question.
2006-07-28 10:20:46 · 24 answers · asked by princess_anne_2009 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
deal with it..your there friend right?...a friend is someone who knows that person and loves them anyway...it doesnt mean you have to be racist :)
2006-07-28 10:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jason C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A best friend is someone that you have a great deal in common with, and personally I could not have a best friend that is racist because I would not have that much in common with them, but I have had acquaintances that were racists and we had to come to the understanding that I would not do or say anything to offend them intentionally, and I would appreciate the same courtesy.
You are never going to change a bigots mind so don't waste your time trying, but there are always going to be times that you have to associate with them, the best thing you can do for yourself is limit that time to as little as possible.
2006-07-28 17:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matters of the heart whether,Love or close friendship usually can not be chosen. Your friend may feel that he or she has a legitimate reason or was subject to upbringing. You may not like being in this situation but if they are truly your best friend, you must value each others opinion. Ask to explain it to you and really listen before you judge. Maybe it's fate that you are where you are.Be a friend and help.
It's OK if your friends are not all friends , spend time with each group and you will be more well rounded.
You seem a very caring person, your friend is lucky to have you.
2006-07-28 20:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them exactly how it is, I would tell them how much I value their friendship but that I didnt feel comfortable with them being racist around me and that I would appreciate if they wouldnt act or talk that way around me and if they couldnt do that then they really arent a person I would feel comfortable being friends with. Chances are you cant change their opinion about whoever they are being racist about because they have probably grew up around a lot of racist behavior, but you can tell them not to do it around you and tell them how you feel about racism and if they are truely your friend they will watch what they say around you. If he or she didnt do that then I would simply stop being friends with them. Also I would be a positive influence on them. People who are racist grew up either in that type of environment , are not culturally educated or have had negative experiences with the people they are racist towards. But if they truely want to be your friend then they arent going to do something to put that friendship into turmoil and if they do they arent worth being friends with...
2006-07-28 17:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by hearts_bleed_dark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...hypothetically, find a new friend, or just frankly don't care. My best friend can sometimes be an absolute nitwit on a plethora of issues. Don't let it get to you; but if it does, move on.
2006-07-28 17:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not try and change my friend. Most of the time its because they were raised that way or something happened to them by that race. I would bring up new things that will get them thinking that being that way will only lead to a long and unhappy life!
2006-07-28 17:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by John R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how they behaved... if they had those opinions but kept them in check i wouldn't care... but if they were acting out, such as making derogatory remarks to people in public or acting in an insulting manner to those they are racist against, then it might be time to end the friendship.
everyone is entitled to their own opinions and views of the world... but if they are harming others, that's crossing the line.
2006-07-28 17:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Patti B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of people in relationships like that and sooner, if not later; they get under each other's skin (sorry for the pun there), and the friendship goes kaput.
2006-07-28 17:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt really care. Because people are them selfs. No one is the same. Its a choice for some people. But it doesnt mean you have to be.
2006-07-28 17:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kimber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin is racist at times... I just say what the f*** you can be like that on your own time but not around me...
2006-07-28 17:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by A_Soldiers_Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Jason C.
deal with it. if you consider them your friend then it shouldn't matter. and if you didn't like racists, how did you end up becoming their friend in the first place???
2006-07-29 04:32:09 · answer #11 · answered by ~Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋