When I entered the room he asked what I was doing. Then two nights before that he said he was going to a class meeting. he came home later that night saying he saw a movie where they were studying and told me what the movie was, the thing is the movie is only in movie theaters, it is not yet out for public vewing. Also 5 years ago he cheated on me. He has promised me he would never do it again, but now I am not sure what to think. He used to call me from work now he dose not even call any more. Am I just overreacting?
2006-07-28 09:58:52 · 16 answers · asked by need to know 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah momma, he cheated on you, now imma dude and imma tell you straight up, home boy dont got no reason actin all jumpy, askin you what you doin, you need to find out whats goin on and put him in check
2006-07-28 10:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
wow, he is cheating. I am a male and married to my wife for 9 years now and i always tell her who I talking to and who I do. I always still call her everyday her work from my work and we do always trust eachother and I know that she knows that I am always honest with her and she knows when she was on vacation and I told my wife i am letting you know that I am going to the movie Theaters with female friend. First thing she ask why you call and let me know? I do trust you. I told yeah you do but people see me with other woman at the movies get the wrong idea so that why I rather tell you now than you not know smile. My wife said how lucky I have a husband do love me so much and making sure I know what going on before I be the last person to know.
Guess what, my wife got back from vacation and she went to work first day and then she came home told me this you are right so many people said saw you with a female going to the movies. I told her see you are so glad i told you smile.
Like your husband right now is not being honest and he asking you what you doing and hopeing not getting busted and also he quickly lowered the page so next time happen again and tell him who that on the page you try to lower it and fsee what you can see. On the top of the page when he lower it the top page will go with it and you will notice will say yahoo answer or something on the top read it if you see said XXX or woman name then you will know it cheating. if so bad that he cheated you once and always a cheater. Look at me I know that cheating not the answer for me and my wife so I work really hard to make this marriage work.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-28 17:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly fishy behavior. I would color a flag red with him not calling you from work like he use to. I'd ask him, why to see what he says. Worst case scenario, he is calling someone else. For the movie thing... point that bad boy out right away, ask him what actually happens in the movie if he insists he saw it. You're like me in a way, trying not to start confusion but questionable about a lot of things (that you should and have every right to be questionable about). If he is a good listener go ahead and tell him what you've noticed lately. Or.....
Let him hang himself, he seems to have enough rope so far, he'll get caught up one day, you just be on your P's and Q's to notice it and make it known to him so he can't deny it. Just know that you may have to be more patient than normal and not give out any clues that that will make him cover up more as he goes. It's up to you. Just know if you go looking for something don't be too upset cause you'll find something in most cases.
2006-07-28 17:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Skypride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I think i have the most experience with this question. about the emailing..I think that he just wants his privacy. Yes he could have been doing something bad but other times he could have not wanted you to see. You are not overreacting. You are curious on what is going on his life. If they cheat once, that usually means that they will cheat again but sometimes not the case. Men can change and sometimes they will..Don't ever doubt yourself from thinking these things. We as women as very insecure when it comes to our relationships. My advice would just take one day at a time..Have a sit down conversation and explain what you are feeling he is doing. If yalls relationship and marriage is worth anything he will justify what he has been doing. Good luck..and if he is cheating..he doesn't deserve you anyway:)
2006-07-28 17:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by zoiesmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he's cheating. My best advice is to prove it and dump him. There's a little device on the market (about the size of a pen cap) called a keykatcher. You just plug the keyboard into it and plug the divice into the computer. It records everything that is typed. You can probably get one on eBay, but make sure you have it mailed to a friend you trust, so he doesn't see it.
If it turns out you're wrong, at least you'll know it for sure, and you'll feel 100 times better.
2006-07-28 17:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got something to hide. Just because he cheated before doesn't mean he is again, but this sounds odd. The email thing; I know what my partner has to go through to email me or chat with me via text, and that's about the gist of it. I'd protect myself if I were you and consider taking steps to being on my own. Something is definitely up. And if he is cheating? I bet it's the same person he cheated with before.
2006-07-28 17:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well remember he's just a guy but you were born a woman ,,,
It doesn't matter if you're rich or poor
Or if you're smart or dumb
A woman's place in this old world
Is under some man's thumb
And if you're born a woman
You're born to be hurt
You're born to be stepped on, lied to, cheated on
And treated like dirt
Ah if you're born a woman
You're born to be hurt
A woman's lot is to give and give
And go on giving
A woman's got to love and lose
And go on living
Well I was born a woman
I didn't have no say
And when my man finally comes home
He makes me glad it happened that way
Because to be his woman
No price is too great to pay
Yes I was born a woman
I'm glad it happened that way
Oh I was born a woman (fade out)
2006-07-28 17:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are chronic cheaters. It's not your fault, just get rid of him and move on. Don't sleep with him anymore, he might be having unsafe sex. Even if it's just online, he is still cheating emotionally. Be happy that you found out now and not decades later. Move on, you will be happier. One should never settle for less. Compromise yes, settling for below your standards. Hell no!
2006-07-28 17:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not overreacting. The phone call thing is not a big deal, most spouses do not call from work everyday.
but lying about being at class and hiding email (or porn) from you is a big red flag.
2006-07-28 17:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can go to a website called download.com. and download a free version of a keylogger. It will show everything he types and everyting he looks at. It also is only accesible by you the person that registered it.
2006-07-28 17:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by ED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya think? Once a cheater, always a cheater. Call a divorce lawyer.
2006-07-28 17:05:56 · answer #11 · answered by Gypsy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋