Let's say a lady has asked, pleaded, and explained until she was blue in the face that she wanted the sex in her relationship to be more exciting. Her fiance listens, says he's gonna change, and then does nothing to change. She does love him with all her heart, but her body is calling out for attention. Men really dig her and find her extremely attractive, so this is not the problem. Should she cheat?
2006-07-28 09:56:53 · 40 answers · asked by ecspressa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ALSO! This lady always tried new and exciting things in bed and he never initiates new things. A lot of people on here are saying that she should initiate. If she's the only one trying to spice things up, then it seems to me that that's not fair! Why do you guys think it should all be up to the woman?! He needs to be more agressive.
2006-07-28 10:12:32 · update #1
is her bf gay?? i think she should try to show him what she wants and see what happens but if he refuses somethings up and in that case i think she should leave him cause she will never be satisfied in the relationship
2006-07-28 10:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by killbill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, then MANY, MANY people would have an excuse to cheat, huh? Come on now, you KNOW there is no reason to cheat, but you know you are trying to find one, aren't you? Maybe HE has a problem that he is finding too hard to talk about. Maybe YOU need to go buy a wig, and a new outfit, and pretend you are someone else, and when he says, "What the %$$# are you supposed to be?" Tell him to RELAX and enjoy the show!!!! The thing I am trying to say is that you can't just TALK to him about what you need, but rather, SHOW HIM. There will come a time in your marriage when YOU will be the one who has lost interest in sex. (yes, it happens to everyone), and HE just may be primed and ready for it then, so think about this......how would you want HIM to react if the shoes were on the others feet? Well then....that's your answer.
2006-07-28 10:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm in a marriage like that, and as much as I hate to say it, get out now. Don't cheat on him, end it. One of the biggest mistakes people make is to get married thinking you can change the other person. People do change, but not because someone wants them to. He sounds like he's just not a passionate or romantic guy. Amazingly, they're out there. If sex is an important aspect of a relationship to you, I'd think hard about this one.
2006-07-28 10:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHEATING IS NEVER OK
break up with the man and find someone else. Unless the two of you have agreed to an open relationship and set up boundaries for this, then NO, don't sleep with someone else.
And why is it HIS JOB to make sex more exciting. Why don't you take some initiative and spice things up for the two of you. You are putting a lot of pressure on him.
2006-07-28 10:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is never "okay." If you are unhappy in the relationship, end it. If you expect him to be true and faithful to you, why would it be okay for you to break his trust?
Ask yourself, what would you do, if you found out that the reason he does nothing to change is because he is cheating on you? What would you do if you found out he is satisfying his sexual needs somewhere else? I'm not saying he is-- I have no idea, I've never met the guy, as far as I know. But ask yourself what would you do, how would you feel if he did that to you, and then ask yourself again if it's right for you to do exactly the same thing to him?
2006-07-28 10:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he refuses to change, then let him know you need more than he is willing to give and go your separate ways amicably.
If you cheat you are setting yourself up for heartache. Not only are you eventually going to lose him because you cheated on him, but now the blame is on you.
Dont do it, it's disrespecting yourself!! You will always have that voice inside saying "you are a cheater". Whatever bad you put in others lives comes back into yours.
If you love him, either accept what he gives you or love him enough to let him go.
Best wishes.
2006-07-28 10:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by lilmissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what is "exciting"? For a lot of women, unfortunately, that means getting "roughly ******." But men who are really emotionally involved tend to wish to be sweet and tender.
In any case, obviously there is incompatibility.
You might try therapy, but that usually does not work if it is the female that wants more action.
Are you and your partner capable of an open relationship? Or to remain committed while practicing (at least the frustrated lady)
polyamoury?
It's just too dangerous - and usually leads to problems - to cheat
secretly, except maybe for one time encounters that just happen.
2006-07-28 10:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you need to go to counseling. You are already cheating emotionally. If your heart is not there, then you need to end it. I've had the same experience. If your mate can't change or won't, then he's the wrong guy for you. However, you should not put your family and him at risk just because you are in heat. Break-up before you get married, it's much harder afterwards and you save a lot of pain and money.
2006-07-28 10:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Cheating shouldn't be the answer to any problem in a marriage or committed relationship. If you are having that much trouble with your fiance you should get into counseling and start doing something proactive to change whats wrong. Cheating isn't going to help your relationship, it's only going to hurt your partner and cause problems.
2006-07-28 10:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...she should have "Sex Education 101" classes and introduce her fiance to her body. Tell her to be a big girl, open her mouth and teach her man what she likes. Chances are he doesn't know what to do. Who better to learn from than the teacher. Tell her to take the lead and introduce new things into their lovemaking. Bring a sexy book to bed and read passages from the book to him out loud in your/her sexiest voice. Bring a plate of food to bed and feed it to him form your body...be creative.
If this doesn't help, he must be dead. Don't cheat on him just break it off with him and then move on. Since her body is calling out for attention make sure she isn't just dialing the wrong number.
2006-07-28 10:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO thats stupid. cheating isn't an excellent ingredient because of the fact he could experience some thing for you. i've got faith in karma so is i cheat, than sometime in my existence some1 will cheat on me. whether theyre cheating on you may keep away from cheating for revenge. Doing that wont clean up something and makes u a foul individual.
2016-11-03 05:23:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋