my wife wants me to stimulate her with a vibrator . she says there is nothing wrong with our sex life but her friends talk about doing it. so she bought one and wants me to ues it on her. since that i lost all feelings for her.will that destroy my marriage.will she shoose that over me?
2006-07-28 09:55:58 · 56 answers · asked by daydreamer_bgi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just look at the vibrator as a tag team partner. If you don't tag it in and play with it with HER, then she will tag it in and play with out you. Learn to love it WITH her.
2006-07-28 09:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel that you can't measure up to a vibrator? Maybe your wife is just trying to spice things up.........and a vibrator is intensely pleasurable for us women. Chances are you masturbate. Did this cause your wife to suddenly not love you?? The only reason she'd choose a vibrator over you is if you become emotionally and physically distant, and don't wish to be intimate with her anymore. If she loves you enough not to cheat on you, she will have no one to turn to but her "friend" the vibrator. My boyfriend was at first repulsed when I bought a vibrator, but soon he enjoyed using it because it caused me pleasure.
Ending your marriage over a sex-toy is downright childish and close-minded. If you decide the vibrator still makes you uncomfortable after giving it a whirl, sit down and have a serious talk with your wife. Tell her you are willing to try new things to have a good time in the bedroom, but only if you feel "right" about doing them. I'm sure you two can come to a mutual agreement that will do nothing but benefit your sex life. Maybe you could offer some suggestions on things you would like to experiment with.
But, if she wishes to continue using the vibrator solo that is her own business.
2006-07-28 11:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not choosing that over you; she's just trying to spice things up. Be glad that she told you she bought one and wants you to be part of it instead of hiding it. Why don't you try to spice things up, too? There's a book that has a title like " 365 days of romance" or something like that. It has things for both the husband and the wife to do for each other. Also, two friends of mine got a remote controlled vibrator that is inserted in the wife and he controls it while they're having sex. May sound odd, but both say it's the best sex they've ever had. Good luck and please don't feel intimidated. She loves you very much and just wants to try new things.
2006-07-28 10:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Off Grow The F*ck up man, Come back to earth. Woman Need extra stimulants, Like vibrator's. Its not bad its good that she feels comfortable enough to use it with you, Because she probably can't have an orgasm as quick as you and would like to enjoy her husbands intimacy, followed by an orgasm. And look you got so selfish and got a complex over that, LAME that is Real cute. Grow up.
2006-07-28 10:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by ( ((G-Force)) ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody likes a penis replacement. Although there is nothing wrong with wanting to reach new heights during sex, it is and can be demasculating. Tell her that is how you feel. I
tell my wife that I use my hands, if she wants to spank it she can use her hands too.
Now also with a vibrator, try making and agreeing to rules. That can get out of hand if you are not comfortable with it, see if she will agree to only let YOU use it on HER, not her using it on herself. Also stick it up her brown eye while you work on the main hole and see if she likes that.
2006-07-28 10:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by cannon1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no she is not choosing the vibrator over u. she is simply exploring her sexuality and trying to spice up ur sex life. i would say at least try it once or maybe twice. if u r still uncomfortable with it, let her know and ask that all toys be left out of the bedroom. u should be happy she included it because she could do it herself. obviously she is a little scared and wants to share the experience. then if all that fails, ask her to go to the tiddy bar with u and ask her how she feels about that. : )
2006-07-28 10:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Vizhen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh... With sex you and your partner must learn to explore. Having sex with one person for more than a few months will undoubtedly begin to get played out. Therefore, she is looking for ways to put more excitement back into it. Dont shun away from it. Use it as a device to explore both yours, as well as her sexuality. Soon she will be sitting on dildo's, and if you cant get over a vibrator - you'll end up crying when she plucks out the monster.
2006-07-28 09:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by Phillip R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Vibrator is a Machine and it will last until it finishes all its charge. But it is not the same with u. U will not be able to last till the Vibrator. So convince ur wife to give it up.
2006-07-28 10:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Alex007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife maybe likes little adventures while having sex. It's okay and your marriage won't be destroyed, I think. A real "thing" is always better than a vibrator
2006-07-28 09:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealous? Geez, throw in some fresh batteries and have a good time. It's ridiculous when men think vibrators are competion. No battery operated toy is going to replace love.
2006-07-28 10:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by jescl32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an open mind.
Im assuming you are taking care of business in the bedroom right ?
because if youre not, then your replacement has arrived buddy.
Some women just like that extra stimulation, doesnt exactly mean she is choosing it over you, it just blows their mind and makes it that much better for them to use one while you get it on.
Us guy's get ours regardless right?, she just wants to get hers.
Shes a freak !
You have to appreciate women like that, not many of them out there.
2006-07-28 10:09:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋