What are the chances of someone quitting cocaine after years of use?

Question

My husband of 7 years just confessed to me that he's been using cocaine before we were ever married. The only reason he confessed this to me is because I caught him last weekend and I took the kids and left. At 1 time in the beginning of our marriage he got me to try it. I saw the road it was heading us down and I told him I never wanted it around me or him again. We have two small children (5 and 2) and he's begging me not to take them from him. He claims he will go to rehab, give me his paycheck every week and take his name off the bank acct. We have a lot of financial problems because of his drug use. Even though we had money problems I would believe his lies of losing money, paying bills that didn't exist, and that hours at work being cut. I never had any clue he was using. He constantly quits jobs. I don't know if I can believe anything he is telling me. What are the chances that he can come clean and us make a home for our family?

Answer 1

zero

Answer 2

i could get your toddler far flung from that, this is no longer good to have a toddler around a drug person. as properly from the undesirable impression, there are a number of hazards. Your toddler ought to get into the medicine and have an unintended overdose. He ought to get so extreme and injure the toddler by way of overlook or via doing some thing stupid. merely being irresponsible and letting him threat himself. a toddler takes multiple interest even while a individual is clean and sober, no way he could be around extreme on cocaine. toddler's centers could additionally be alerted to the situation if somebody could ever record it. which would be toddler endangering! you do no longer choose this have faith me, no longer after years of putting up with it. Cocaine and much extra so crack isn't any doubt one in all the main effectual addictions interior the international. it may take some thing massive to make him stop, criminal hardship, wellness hardship, financial hardship, or mixture's of issues. some addicts have lost each and everything and nonetheless shop making use of. and whether he comprises the region the place he needs to stop, the cravings can final for years and relapse is extremely person-friendly between coke addicts. You never be attentive to while he will recuperate. i does no longer wait around for some years till he does.

Answer 3

Do you want a hard, cold, honest answer?
1) The chances are vanishingly small. Cocaine addiction is progressive. It has to get worse before it has any hope of getting better. He'll have to hit bottom (losing everything, including you, the kids... EVERYTHING) before he has a chance at recovery. He'll drag you down to the pit with him as he goes. Are you willing to endure that?
2) Addicts are consumate liars, even to themselves. They will say absolutely anything, sometimes believing it, to avoid the consequences of their addiction. He will make promises, even intending to keep them, but.. they won't be kept. He will find a way to feed his addiction, even if it requires theft (from you or others).

You have a better chance of being struck by lightning than seeing him recover without destroying his marraige first.

Answer 4

This makes me want to cry, really. The fact you have 2 small kids too...........I can totally relate to this.......my boyfriend is a coke addict too....he has fallen a few times in the last couple years but to look at him, you would NEVER know it.....he's a bodybuilder, is college educated, good job...what you wrote about the money.....are ALL classic signs he is using......he needs help!!!! AND YES, YOU handle all the money. He will not be able to control himself.......This is too broad a subject to handle here, and I wish I could help....contact NARCOTICS ANONYMOUS for assistance!!!! There are chapters all over the country.

GOOD LUCK TO YOU!

Answer 5

The only way you can quit cocaine is with serious professional help, and he needs to WANT to quit, or it will never work.
Sweetie, he LIED to you for YEARS and somehow covered up narcotics use to you for all that time.

I think you should leave him until he comes clean. Sticking around puts you and your kids in serious danger. You might also consider consulting a divorce lawyer, if I were you I'd be done with him

Answer 6

Well if he doesn't go to rehab, not a snowball's chance in hell. If he goes, and goes to meetings and let's God do for him what he can't do for himself, he has a chance. If he is willing to try all this, I'd say try not to leave before the miracle happens. But, he's gotta want it to get it. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 7

honey, i believe it will take awhile. don't give in to him. you need to give him tough love. you would be enabling him if you stayed, because thats what he wants. i'm in a similar situation but my husband is abusive. this isnt about me, but, seperate from him. don't let him see the kids for a little while. it would be in there best interest. make a life for you and your kids, seek help from God, pray for him and your family. anything is possible with Jesus. He could become clean and you could be happy. but nothing comes easy. it's going to take alot of work and strength. Overcome and you will be blessed. He needs to realize whats important. And he wont (unfortunatley) until it's gone. Many blessings to you and him.

Answer 8

Rehab is the only way... but sometimes that dosn't work. He has to want to quit

Answer 9

They can stop, but remeber once an addict always an addict. And if they say they can stop on their own they are lying. Just be supportive and understand its a addiction, get him help!