2006-07-28 09:50:29 · 24 answers · asked by Kate 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
one of my husband's cousins got pregnant quite young (I think around 16) so she would have to marry the guy all because she couldn't stand living with her mother and her mother's boyfriend anymore. she ended up having a miscarriage.
a few years later, she did manage to have a baby with that guy and had a beautiful baby girl. but then one day, when she got home from my bridal shower, in fact, her husband told her he didn't want to be married anymore and then he was out the door. the baby was only about 6 months old, and my husband's cousin was 18.
so even if you do manage to get pregnant so young, move away from your parents, and have your baby, it still probably won't turn out like you want it to.
2006-07-28 10:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jbeth 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is more stressful than living with parents that don't understand you. If you are unhappy talk to someone a social worker or a teacher a friend and they may be able to help you sort out the next step.
I know it is very hard being a teen and with the stress of living in todays world it is very tough for everyone. Just that some can't handle it as well as others. If you talk to a social worker at school , a counsler and so on they will not only be able to help you work thru the problem and solve it but they will also try to get to the cause.
But you will have to be patient because sometimes it can take a while to solve an issue, or it may seem like it will never end but give time and patience and you will be happier.
I can say this because I grew up in a home that my dad drank a lot and my parents faught a lot and they would beat us alot. and yet my dad and mom were not there all the time for us and I was treated different then the others, and still am but I hung in there and I am now complimented by my parents that I am doing better than they expected and better than by brother and sister and so on.
2006-07-28 17:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by mn01countrygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I thought I wanted to do this at 14 when I had a boyfriend I thought I loved him more than anything and I wanted us to be married and be together forever. But reality is you probably wont be with this guy forever, and If you think you will good luck. He will change, you will change, in a few years he will probably be cheating on you. I know it sounds crazy right now but, you have alot of changing to do. You don't need a baby holding you back from all the things you like. If I were to have had a baby, I would never have got to party and hang every night out at the clubs with my girls in college! I would have had to be home with a child ALONE! Because I am probably certain this guy will not be around when you are 21. You don't want to miss out on life just because your mom and dad were loving you alittle to hard. If there is something deeper like abuse then tell a family member.
2006-07-28 17:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by angee W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. This person will keep running... first the parents and next their baby. There are other ways to get a way from parents like turning 18 and moving out. Just 4 more years.
2006-07-28 16:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by Unique 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO and NO again.
You are just a child not a grown up. Babies are not cheap whatsoever. You need to keep yourself in school, get a high school diploma, go to college, get a good job, find a good man, get married and then have kids.
But until then you are just a child and need to do what your parents say. As long as you are living in their house you will do what they tell you to do. Unless you have a high paying job to put a roof over your head, clothes on your back, pay the light and water, cable, phone, net, car, car insurance, health insurance, gas and food then you need to just sit back and take a look at reality and stop trying to be grown when you are not.
2006-07-28 16:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because that person will be running right back into their parents arms, because its hard to raise a child on your own, especially at 14!! You aren't even legally allowd to work an 8 hour work schedule at 14, so who do you think is going to take care of the baby???
2006-07-28 17:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Braidynsmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone's trying to get pregnant at 14 they should be seeing a therapist. If her parents are abusive she should talk to a school counselor or some other community professional like a church group, but if her parents are just strict and she doesn't like it she should really evaluate her priorities before ruining a babys life on a whim.
2006-07-28 16:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! You would be trading one set of problems for a new set that would affect you for the rest of your life. Also, you would have the responsibility of a baby. How would you take care of it? How would you finish your education? How would your boyfriend finish his education? This is NOT something you want to do. Whatever is going on between you and your parents will not be made better by a decision like this.
2006-07-28 16:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because seeing you are a minor your parents would get temp. custody of your baby and you would still have to be with them. do not mess your life up with a child because they are for life. you are too young and cannot take care of a child on your own. reconsider and finish school and when you are 18 you can go away to college. i am sure your parents are not that bad.
2006-07-28 16:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by mzwood06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. A 14 year old has barley gone through pubirty and a lot of times kids have kids so have someone to love that will love them back no matter what.
2006-07-28 16:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by Bianca G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋